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Honor Your True Self

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Honor means love. Honor means respect. Honor means integrity. If you love yourself, honor yourself. If you love what you are doing, honor it. If you love your body, honor your body.

Honor is how you treat yourself. It is how you take care of yourself every day.

Honor your journey. Honor where you are, not where you are going.

It is difficult to do, especially when things are not where they are supposed to be. It is not easy to do when you are not getting the right results.

It does not matter. It is when things are not going well for you that you are supposed to be there for yourself. Do not wait for things to be perfect before you honor yourself.

Honor yourself today, now, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year. Start today. And do not wait for other people to honor you before you appreciate yourself.

If you don’t have the courage to honor yourself, to love yourself, to appreciate yourself, to be grateful for your life, to face your life, to live for yourself, to be kind to yourself, to embrace integrity, to face your future, to have the courage to reject the past, no one is going to do it for you.

Why is that? Because it is your life. It is your responsibility to do what makes you smile, what makes you happy, what makes you come alive.

If you start honoring yourself, do not go back to where you were yesterday. In her book The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, Martha Beck writes, “If you start honoring your true nature and find yourself missiing your old culture, don’t panic. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself time and space to grieve. Confide in loved ones. If they don’t understand, find a coach or therapist. But don’t think that missing your old life means you should go back to it. Everyone who decides to embrace integrity must mourn the known misery, the familiar patterns and dysfunctional relationships they’ve left behind.”

If you want to change your life, doing the old things won’t get you anywhere. If you want to change your situation, doing the old things is not the right path to take.

If something is not working, change it. If you don’t like where you are, make it better. Or if you can’t make it better, then move on. Stop hurting yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Honoring yourself is being honest with yourself. So if you are not doing what you think you are supposed to be doing, tell yourself the truth. Do not forget that there is always a better way to do something. Yes, there is. Look for it. And you will find it.

This Is The Most Difficult Thing To Be

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Why are you living other people’s dreams? Why are you trying to be who you are not? C’mon, no matter what is going on in your life, you have a lot going well for you. Why not focus on what is going well for you? Why not use the time you have on earth to make a difference?

“The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be.”- Leo Buscaglia

In my opinion, that is better than wasting it on worthless things. If you don’t get what you want, be patient. Sometimes it takes time to discover the genius within you.When things are not working, be patient with yourself. Do not beat yourself up. Do not criticize yourself. When life is not treating you fairly, do not give up. Giving up on your dreams means you are giving up on yourself.

“The easiest thing to be in the world is you.”- Leo Buscaglia

You don’t want to do anything anymore. You are saying to yourself, ‘I am done!” Good or bad, do not quit. Keep going, keep learning, and keep loving your life.

The key to success is honesty. It attracts other like-minded people into your life. It takes courage to represent yourself. Martha Beck says, “No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth.”

Truth is freedom. And freedom is responsibility. Truth is peace. And peace is a creator. Truth is responsibility. And responsibility is freedom. When you are responsible, you are free. According to Paulo Coelho, “Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose – and commit myself to- what is best for me.” You have a lot of ‘what is best’ for you. No matter what is going on in your life, look for the positive things in your life and focus on them.