How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

This Is Your Problem

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To get to a better place, you have got to move on. Stop feeding a dead animal. Stop nurturing a dead plant.

Stop tolerating people who are not even supposed to be in your life.

When something is not working, has never worked, then why are you feeding it?

If it is no longer serving you, let it go. Do not keep it. You have got to move. That is life.

It doesn’t stay in one place. It is always changing. So if you want a better life, then you must live your life on your terms. Do not do something that is against what you stand for.

If something doesn’t make sense to you, then it is not for you. Do not do it because of your friends, or because of what other people might say.

That is not your problem. Your problem is to be you, to do you, and to live you. If you are not, then you are not being true to yourself.