Category: Personal Growth

Life is about growth. If you are not growing, then what are you doing?

Are You “Living For Your Fictional Self?”

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by ROMAN ODINTSOV

Be comfortable with yourself. Stop trying to avoid yourself. It is not going to work. Because you can’t get away from yourself, from your mind, from your body, and from your soul. Other people can get away from you, but you cannot get away from yourself.

Since you can’t get away from yourself, then what are you going to do to reconnect with yourself, with your inner world?

Phillip C. McGraw says, “Living for your fictional self, whether it is a totally dominant force or just a partial one, is a dangerous state of being that diverts, absorbs, and robs your life energy.” Do not deceive yourself. When things are not going well for you, do not hide it. If you hide it, you are not deceiving others, you are deceiving yourself. You are stealing from your own life. You are crushing your own growth, your own success. Life is precious. Do not do that to yourself.

Your life matters. Start living it. Stop believing in where you were yesterday. Stop thinking about what didn’t go your way. It is a waste of your precious time to focus your attention on things that are no longer with you. Learn to let go. Letting go leads to freedom. When you let go of things that are eating you alive, you will attract better things, life-giving things into your life.

Do not fake it till you live it. Live it till you fake it. Do not fake your life. Be you, no matter what. Be comfortable living with yourself. If you cannot live with yourself, then where are you going to go?

We Are Bound To Fail

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Liza Summer

“… But when it comes to things we think really matter, like creating a career or raising children, we bear down, tighten up, and absolutely refuse to fail. Anyway, that’s the theory. The reality is, we are bound to fail. By refusing to accept this, we only make things worse. Conversely, if we only own our failure openly, publicly, with genuine regret and absolutely no shame, we reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection- the things we thought we’d get by succeeding.”- Martha Beck, as quoted in O’s Little Guide to Starting Over

Failure will happen. You cannot stop it. We are here to fail. Because if you want to grow, if you want to move to the next level, without failures, it is not going to happen. So when you fail, instead of beating yourself up, find out what went wrong. Let the people around you know what happened. Do not hide it. See what you can take away from it. And then continue with your life.

“We are bound to fail.” it is going to happen. It is your learning point. When you fail at something, learn from it. Take it as an advantage to know what you do not know. Take it as an opportunity to stretch yourself, to challenge yourself, to get out of your safe zone. Do not avoid it. If you do, according to Martha Beck, “we only make things worse.”