personal development

We Are Bound To Fail

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“… But when it comes to things we think really matter, like creating a career or raising children, we bear down, tighten up, and absolutely refuse to fail. Anyway, that’s the theory. The reality is, we are bound to fail. By refusing to accept this, we only make things worse. Conversely, if we only own our failure openly, publicly, with genuine regret and absolutely no shame, we reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection- the things we thought we’d get by succeeding.”- Martha Beck, as quoted in O’s Little Guide to Starting Over

Failure will happen. You cannot stop it. We are here to fail. Because if you want to grow, if you want to move to the next level, without failures, it is not going to happen. So when you fail, instead of beating yourself up, find out what went wrong. Let the people around you know what happened. Do not hide it. See what you can take away from it. And then continue with your life.

“We are bound to fail.” it is going to happen. It is your learning point. When you fail at something, learn from it. Take it as an advantage to know what you do not know. Take it as an opportunity to stretch yourself, to challenge yourself, to get out of your safe zone. Do not avoid it. If you do, according to Martha Beck, “we only make things worse.”