Tag: Discourage

4 Ways To Grow Yourself

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If you are not happy with what you are doing, with where you are, do not resist it. It is time to move on to the next level. And to move on to the next level, you must not resist change.

“You have to be completely discouraged before you can progress.”– Carolyn Schlam

You can move on, you can grow yourself only if you have the courage to do the following:

Give something up

Carolyn Schlam says, “If we want to grow, we must give something up.” Whatever it is that is holding you back from achieving your greatness in life, let it go. Give it up.

Do not put yourself down

“When we put ourselves down, we meditate on what is lacking instead of being grateful for what we have; we compare ourselves to others and out come out less than; we beat upon ourselves and work ourselves into a state of self-condemnation that blocks answers to our prayer.”- Dr Pat Francis

You do not have any reason to put yourself down. Life is too short to do that. To find happines in your life, do not focus on what is not there. Do not compare yourself to other people. They have their own problems. You have yours. Let them face their problems. While you mind your own business. Do not worry about other people. Focus on where you are, what you are doing, and where you are going. That is good enough.

Keep learning”

If you want to expand your world, do not stop learning. According to Harry Beckwith and Christine K. Clifford, “Education does more than prepare us for career and expand our minds. It enlarges our world- the number of people with whom we can connect. Because education covers so much ground, it helps us find more of the ground that is common to others whom we meet.”

Slow Down

According to Mark Nepo, “When impatient, the explorer in us demands that the problem solver in us work faster. But the native in us works more closely with what is. The native in us is in no hurry to get anywhere, wanting only to inhabit wherever we are to the fullest.” Listen to your inner self. It takes time to get real things done. Take your time to do the things that are important to you. Do not measure yourself against time. If you do, you will fail. Why is that? Because time will always win.

Are You “Living For Your Fictional Self?”


Be comfortable with yourself. Stop trying to avoid yourself. It is not going to work. Because you can’t get away from yourself, from your mind, from your body, and from your soul. Other people can get away from you, but you cannot get away from yourself.

Since you can’t get away from yourself, then what are you going to do to reconnect with yourself, with your inner world?

Phillip C. McGraw says, “Living for your fictional self, whether it is a totally dominant force or just a partial one, is a dangerous state of being that diverts, absorbs, and robs your life energy.” Do not deceive yourself. When things are not going well for you, do not hide it. If you hide it, you are not deceiving others, you are deceiving yourself. You are stealing from your own life. You are crushing your own growth, your own success. Life is precious. Do not do that to yourself.

Your life matters. Start living it. Stop believing in where you were yesterday. Stop thinking about what didn’t go your way. It is a waste of your precious time to focus your attention on things that are no longer with you. Learn to let go. Letting go leads to freedom. When you let go of things that are eating you alive, you will attract better things, life-giving things into your life.

Do not fake it till you live it. Live it till you fake it. Do not fake your life. Be you, no matter what. Be comfortable living with yourself. If you cannot live with yourself, then where are you going to go?