Integrity Is…

Your integrity is not what you say. It is not what you do. Your integrity is who you are. It is how you do what you do.

You can talk all you like. People don’t want to hear you. They want to see you in action. They are after what you can do, not what you can say.

People are after what you think about them, not about what you think about yourself.

Because we are too good at thinking about ourselves, but not about others.

But that is not how integrity works. Integrity is about trust. It is about respect. And it is about being you, no mattter where you are. Integrity is about taking care of yourself. It is also about treating other people with love and respect.

Above all, integrity is saying to other people, ‘trust me, I am who I am, no matter what.’

According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘Integrity. The good in you coming out of you as a statement of who you know yourself to be. Integrity. The commitment to acting on what your heart feels and knowing your heart feels good about who you are and what you do in every situation. Integrity. The willingness to be diligent in giving your best, first to yourself and then to everyone else, knowing that every moment of contact with another being is a gift from God. Integrity. Yearning to know the truth. Seeking the truth. Learning the truth. Spreading the truth. Acting in truth for the sake of honoring truth for the good of everyone, including yourself. Integrity. Accepting all that is and choosing to live by all that honors you and honors God, without condemning the other parts. Integrity, not right or wrong.Your integrity is the power that records, rewards and restores your position in the universe of life.’

If your integrity is not strong enough to face the forces of life, what are you doing to make it stronger?

‘Control Is In Control When…’

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?