‘Control Is In Control When…’

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?

Don’t Start And Give Up

Train yourself to focus on what you want, even when it is hard. Train yourself to be comfortable with yourself, even when you don’t want to do it.

Success doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time. Real life takes time to build. Real things take time to bring to life.

If you are not willing to do the work, you are not going to be successful. You are not going to be able to make your dreams happen.

That is why you should never give up on yourself. Nothing is easy. But when you commit yourself to what you want, when you are willing to do the work, that is when growth happens.

No matter how hard, do not give up on yourself. Stay with your dreams. When you stay with what you are doing, no matter how hard, no matter how tough, you are more likely to make your life happen.

Tough things are not meant to break you. Tough things are meant to make you better, stronger.

Remember, your success, your future, your growth, your happiness, your life, and your thoughts are under your control.

When you take care of yourself, yourself will take care of your life.