Tag: Pleasing People

The Cost Of Being True To Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Nothing is free. ‘Everything comes with a price.’ Life comes with a price. Success comes with a price. Peace comes with a price. Growth comes with a price. Love comes with a price. Relationships cost something. Because nothing is free. Even your own growth is going to make some people unhappy. Because you are going forward. It is going to happen. But do not focus on what other people are saying about your life.

If you can just focus on what you are doing, if you can let go of people who are working day and night to bring you down, if you can trust yourself, if you can find your own way in your life, if you can trust your way, if you do not allow other people’s negative comments to distract you, if you can manage those who are not happy with you, if you can stop trying to please everybody, then you are being true to yourself.

No matter what is going on in your life, being true to yourself is the best way to go. Do not lie to yourself. Do not put yourself last. Do not try to make everyone your friend. Do not try to apologize for your success. Be proud of your failures. Because they made you who you are today.

But life comes with a price. Are you willing to pay it?

If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Happy adult woman talking on phone and using laptop while chilling at home
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.