Tag: Personal Development

This Is Why You Should Please Yourself, Not Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being
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“Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.

You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?

The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.

When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.

If You Want To Get Things Done, Stop Waiting For The Right Time

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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If you want to get things done, if you want to start something new, or you want to renew your old things, there is no perfect time to do it. The right time to do anything is when you decide to do it. And the right time to decide is right now, right where you are.

When it comes to your dreams, your goals, your future, there is no perfect time to make it better. Now is your perfect time to make things happen. Stop waiting. The right time will never come. Because it is not there. Don’t wait for what is not there. Start where you are. Start with what you have.

You are destined to succeed. So stop waiting for the right time. Waiting for the right time is another way of telling yourself, “I am not doing it.” According to Brian Tracy, “If you wait for things to be just right, you will wait forever.” Don’t wait forever! It will not help you. It will hurts you.

People wait for things to be just right because they are scared to start. They don’t want to fail. They don’t want people to criticize them. They love where they are. They are still thinking about it. They think they don’t have the right education to start.

But if you can just put yourself together, there is nothing you cannot do. Put yourself together. Put your thoughts together. You can do anything. But you have to be willing and ready to confront your inner critic, the guy telling you what you cannot do. Don’t worry about it. Focus on where you are going, and you will get there.