You Can’t Control People, But You Can Do This One Thing

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You cannot control what people do to you. You cannot control how people treat you. You cannot control how they react to you. People react the way they do because they see the world differently. They don’t see the world the way you do. They don’t think the way you do. They view the world through a different lens. They have the right to behave the way they behave. They have the right to act the way they act. They have the right to treat you the way they do. It is their choice. Choice matters.

You cannot control people’s behavior, but you can control how you react to them. You can control yourself. You can control your emotions. If people treat you in a bad way, you have the choice to treat them in a positive way or in a negative way. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t fight back with anger, resentment, but with love.

Instead of fighting back with resentment or anger, try to understand why they are behaving the way they do. They have reasons behind their actions- whether they are accepted or unaccepted. It is not good to fight back with anger because you don’t know what they are going through in life. We are all fighting something in life. We are all going through something in life. If people treat you in a bad way, don’t jump to conclusion, try to understand where they are coming from. If you take the time to know them, you will see that they are not as terrible as you have imagined them to be. People are naturally good, but they don’t know how to show it to others.

When people are acting in weird ways, don’t criticize them. Try to find out who they are, where they are coming from, how they have been living their lives, and what they have gone through in life. When you know where people are coming from, it is easier for you handle them. Sometimes when people are acting out, they are not acting to hurt you. They are fighting with themselves, not you. Learn not to take things personal. If you take things personal, you are hurting yourself. But if you don’t take things personal, you will not be impacted by them.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said, ” How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” It does not matter how people treat you, but how you react to it matters.

Control yourself, not people.

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How To Eliminate Procrastination

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Procrastination is a dream killer. When you procrastinate, you are putting your life on hold. You are putting your progress on hold. You are putting your success off till tomorrow. Procrastination is not what you should embrace, it is what you should reject if you are to make progress in life.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “Never put off till tomorrow, that which you can do today.” No matter how small the tasks are, don’t put it off till tomorrow if you can do it today. Remember that tomorrow has its own problem. If you add today’s job to tomorrow’s job, you are compounding your stress level. That which you can do today, do it today. That which you are going to do tomorrow, do it tomorrow.

If you keep putting things off till tomorrow, your life will never change. If you want your life to change, if you want your situation to change, stop putting things off, start taking action. Stop the “wishing game,” and start the playing the “doing game.” The ONLY medication to cure the procrastination disease is ACTION. Action can cure anything.

Your purpose in life is to grow, to do great things. But if you keep postponing your goals, you will never reach your destination. Make the decision today to stop procrastinating and start doing things that will put you where you want to be.

To conquer procrastination, start doing little things every day. The more you do them, the better it will be for you. Start small. Don’t beat yourself up in the beginning. It is not going to happen overnight. Be patient, but be consistent. Give yourself time to finish whatever you start. Hold yourself accountable for completing or not completing it. Whatever it is that you are avoiding, make the decision to work on it today, not tomorrow. If the thing you are avoiding is a difficult thing to accomplish, don’t get scared. Start by breaking it down into manageable portions. The smaller they are, the better for you to do. Start doing it today.

Life is all about moving. If you want to move in the right direction, stop putting things off. Start taking action today, and your life will start to move in the right direction. You can do it!