Tag: Negative feelings

Why We Suffer

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Why do we suffer? Where does suffering come from?

According to Pema Chodron, ‘Our repetive suffering does not come from this uncomfortable sensation but from what happens next… .It comes from rejecting our own energy when it comes in a form we don’t like. It comes from continually strengthening habits of grasping and aversion and distancing ourselves. In particular it comes from our internal conversations- our judgments, embellishments, and labels ablout what’s happening.’

If you want to free yourself, you must face your reality. instead of hiding your feelings, why not focus on what you can change? Why not explore what you are feeling, what the feelings are communicating to you?

No matter what is going on in your life, if you want to learn from it, you must embrace your feelings. And do not run from your feelings; accept them.

How To Turn Negative Messages Around

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It starts with your own mindset. If you believe you can do great things, you can do them. Do not doubt yourself. Because self-doubt is the beginning of failure.

In his book Making Hope Happen: Create the Future You Want for Yourself and Others, Shane J. Lopez writes, ‘… mindset influences every aspect of your life, from work to sports, from relationships to parenting. If you believe you can change and develop, you know you can move beyond your present limitations.’

To ‘move beyond your present limitations’, you must change your thoughts.

You can do great things. Do not doubt yourself. Negative messages are not good for you. They are not good for your life, for your health, and for your happiness.

Here is why. According to Dr. Shane J. Lopez, ‘Negative messages are no more ‘realistic’ than your highest goals, and they rob you of agency.’

‘Negative messages deplete you, sap your agency, and keep you stuck. Disputing these messages will help you reclaim your motivation for the goals that matter to you most.’

If you want to achieve greatness, you must first embrace yourself. You must stop telling yourself negative things. If you do not, remember, ‘negative messages … keep you stuck.’ The question is, ‘Do you want to be stuck?’