Tag: Micromanagement

Turning Excuses Into Results

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Improve Academy, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning Report

Here is the good news: ‘You are the Source of Your Suffering- and That’s the Good News.’

Choose to be happy. ‘Happiness is not correlated to perfect circumstances or a lack of stress in your life, but to the amount of personal accountability you accept.’

Ask yourself, ‘What am I missing?’ Because ‘what is missing from a situation is that which you are not giving.’

Do not feed your ego. ‘A bad day for the ego is a good day for the soul of a leader.’

Stay away from micromanaging people. ‘If you feel you have to over-manage or micromanage, it is because you are under-leading.’

Stop hiring and promoting the wrong people. ‘You will have problem employees for as long as you continue to hire them and put up with them.’

Take action. ‘It is nearly always action– not opinion- that adds the most value.’

Always do what you say you are going to do. Because ‘clarity is the source– not the product- of a highly efficient and successful team.’

‘Trust is a choice.’

Source:

Cy Wakeman (2010). Reality-Based Leadership: Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace, & Turn Excuses Into Results

What You Should Know About A Controlling Person

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Motivational Quotes, Personal Development

Freedom is life. It is everything. If you are not free, you are not living. Freedom is more than just walking around.

Freedom is when you have the power to control your life, when you have the courage to do what you love to do. Freedom is when you are comfortable with yourself. It is not when you are under the control of another person.

A controlling person, according to Dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes, ‘often feels stronger when he makes his partner feel powerless and ashamed.’

‘A controlling person asserts power by setting rules and micromanaging his partner’s everyday life.’

‘A controlling man might accuse his partner of flirting or being involved sexually with friends or coworkers.’

‘A controlling person feels threatened when his partner’s life doesn’t revolve entirely around his own.’

‘A controlled person cannot reach her full potential.’

‘A controlling man tries to become the only authority in the house and encourages children to disrespect their mother.’

‘The controlling person defines reality. If he says it’s ‘love,’ then it’s ‘love,’ even if it feels like control.’

‘A controlling person communicates: ‘If you cared about us a couple, you wouldn’t make problems.’ Women keep silent to avoid making waves.’

‘Controlling people often consider themselves victims, evoking their partner’s pity and compassion.’

‘It is difficult for controlling men to change, But staying the same is also difficult.’

No matter what you are going through in your life, remember that ‘you are the one who decides how much is too much.’

As always, you are not a victim; you are a victor. Stay safe!

Further Reading:

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD (2015). Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship