My friend, believe it or not, you are making things hard for yourself. Things happen to us for a reason. Nature does not make things hard for us. Nature makes things authentic, real , and beautiful.
Don’t engage yourself in a fight that you cannot win. Pick what you can do, do it very well. Don’t pick what you cannot do. If you do, you are making things really difficult for yourself. Life is not hard. Life is not difficult if you know how to live it. Life is yours to enjoy, not to abuse. Life is your to share, not to hide. Life is yours to celebrate, not to endure. Life is yours to make happen, not to waste. Life is sweet, not bitter.
According to Anthony de Mello, “Life is easy, life is delightful. It’s only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings.” We make things difficult for ourselves. We make life hard for ourselves because we don’t know how to live it. We pay attention to the wrong things. We think the wrong thoughts. We don’t pursue our dreams, but other people’s dreams. We ignore our needs, wants, and concerns. Instead, we make other people happy. We choose material things over our own spiritual life. That is not a life. That is not the way forward. Instead, it is the way backward. Life is still easy. You can make it even easier for yourself.
How? Don’t search for happiness; happiness is already in you. Just connect with it. Don’t take what doesn’t belong to you. Help other people, but don’t carry them. Be grateful for what you have. Live your life in your own way. Don’t stress yourself over the little things. But don’t ignore them. You need the little guys to get to where you are going to. Above all, don’t try to be who you are not. That is deadly! Don’t do it. It is comfortable to do, but don’t do it. No matter how hard, be your REAL self. Even if other people don’t like you, but if you like yourself, that is good enough.
To live a fulfilled life, you must accept yourself. Life is not about others; it is about you. So how you live it matters. It starts with self-acceptance. It starts with self-love. If you don’t accept yourself as you are, who do you think is going accept you?
To live a fulfilled life, according to Sophia Loren,
“Everything you live through helps to make you the person you are now.”
“I’ve never tried to block out the memories of the past, even though some are painful. I don’t understand people who hide their past.” Your past is a part of who you are. Whether good or bad, be proud of your past. You can’t write your story without your past. What you have been through in the past is a part of you. What you are going through right now is uniquely yours. If you can endure it, why not? If not, move on.
“It is better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe and not explore at all.” A life not explored is a life wasted. If you want to really live a fulfilled life, don’t be afraid to make mistakes. You can’t live your life without making one, two, three, or even four mistakes. If you don’t make mistakes, it means you are not exploring your life. It means you are not taking chances. It means you are ignoring opportunities. It means you are living in the past.
“I was blessed with a sense of my own destiny. I have never sold myself short. I have never judged myself by other people’s standards.” That is how you should live your own life too. Don’t live your life by other people’s standards. Live your life by your own standards. They are yours. Own them. No matter what, no matter what you are selling, you should never sell yourself short. In other words, you should never settle for less. Your destiny is in your hands. Don’t sell it short.
“I have always expected a great deal of myself, and if I fail, I fail myself. So failure or reversal does not bring out resentment in me because I cannot blame others for any misfortune that befalls me.” This is very important. Don’t ignore it. If you fail at something, take it. Accept it. Don’t blame others for your mistakes. It is your life. For this reason, you must ALWAYS hold yourself accountable for your failures or mistakes.