Category: Personal Growth

Life is about growth. If you are not growing, then what are you doing?

Time To Move On

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Yan Krukov

You have the power to change your life. Without taking responsibility for your life, nothing gets done.

When it comes to getting things done, it is okay to make mistakes. Because without mistakes, you are not going to get anything done. And do not forget why you are here. To get things done.

If you are not getting anything done, then it is time to move on. It is time to be honest with yourself. It is time to stop chasing what is not for you. It is time to face your reality. It is time to seek help from other people. And it is time to start challenging yourself.

If you want to improve yourself, you have to focus on your own improvement. Ask the right questions. Take chances. Do not fear risks. Because if you do not take risks, you are not going to get what you want.

Remember that your job is to improve yourself. It is not to focus on what others are doing. What matters is what you are doing. And if you aren’t getting the right results, then move on. Do not waste your time. Because you are not going to be here forever. All you have is today. So why not make it a special day for yourself and for the people around you?

If you are bigger than what you are doing right now, then do not waste your time. Move on. Try something different. Move to another company, if you can do it. In his book Higher is Waiting, Tyler Perry writes, “If you’re not growing anymore, if it feels as if the walls are closing in on you, if your roots are pressing up against one another and its uncomfortable, if you’re not getting enough spiritual nourishment and encouragement, then it’s probably time to move to a bigger pot- a larger world.”

If you are not learning anymore, then it is time to move on. Before you move, ask the right question. For example, “Why am I moving?” Yes, why are you moving? Is it the right time?

How Setting Healthy Boundaries Can Help Your Focus

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Josh Hild

Jessica Dore writes, “Healthy boundaries are like demarcations that separate our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors from the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of others.”

It is important to set boundaries. If you do not already have one, you are putting your happiness at risk. If you do not know what you want, people will give you what you do not want. What you want is not a “rigid boundary”, but a healthy one.

Jessica Dore says, “A rigid boundary is one where nothing gets in and nothing gets out.”

That is not what you want. You want a healthy boundary. A healthy boundary is one where good things get in and bad things get out. It is a boundary where positive thoughts get in and negative thoughts get out. It is a boundary where you separate your negative thoughts from your positive thoughts.

If you want your boundary to work, to protect you, to separate you from toxic people, you must take it seriously. You must not joke with it. If you do, other people will joke with it.

But do not make your boundaries too rigid. In her book Tarot for Change: Using the Cards for Self-care, Acceptance, and Growth, Jessica Dore writes, “Ideally what we want is a boundary that’s firm, visible from a mile away but not welcoming. There’s a door way through the wall, but the gatekeeper is discerning and has a zero-tolerance policy for nonsense.” She adds, “The person who presumably built the wall is ill at ease. While a proper boundary should give us a break from the need to always stand guard, a porous one keeps us incessantly scanning the horizon for incoming threats.”

If you are not happy with yourself, think about what you are bringing into your life.