Month: November 2020

The Dark Side Of Multitasking, According To Research

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth, Time Management
Photo of Woman Writing on Tablet Computer While Using Laptop
Photo by Anthony Shkraba

“Until we can manage time, we can manage nothing else.”- Peter Drucker

Happiness comes from doing what is in front of us. We try to multitask ourselves, but it is hard to do. We think we are ready for it, “but research has shown that our brains are not nearly as good at handling multiple tasks as we like to think they are.”

If you really want to enjoy your life, if you want to enjoy your work, focus on one thing at a time. Don’t listen to those who brag about how good they are at doing one trillion things at the same time. They are just bragging! Just bragging!

You are supposed to enjoy what you are doing, right? But if you engage yourself in multiple tasks at the same time, you are reducing the fun that comes from your work. If you are not enjoying your work, think about it. Ask yourself, “Is this job the right one for me?” If not, find a way to make it better. If you can’t make it better, it is time to move forward.

Doing multiple things at the same time is good, but not for everyone. Some people are good at it, others not. If you are not one of them, don’t do it. If you want to enjoy your work, focus on what is right in front of you.

This Is Why You Should Please Yourself, Not Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being
Two Talking Women While Using Laptop
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“Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.

You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?

The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.

When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.