Tag: Willpower

Comfort Is What Is Holding You Back From Achieving Your Goals

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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If you want to grow, comfort is not your friend. It is your enemy number one. If you want to be successful, comfort is not your friend. It is your enemy number one.

If you are trying to get back up, to make a difference in your life, in the lives of those around you, you must get away from your comfort zone.

If you are tired of getting the same results, you must change where you are, what you do, and how you are doing it.

Remember, to change your life, you must change. To get to a new place, you must move. You must leave where you are. To know more, you must learn more. That is how life works.

Do not expect to get what you want if you are not willing to do the work. And to do the work, you must get out of your comfort area.

When it comes to success, we all want to be successful. But no one wants to leave where they are. No one wants to try new things. And no one wants to think differently.

According to Claudia Chan, ‘We all aim to be comfortable, but comfort is really the enemy of leadership because so many of steps up the mountain require courage.’

If you want to become great at something, it is not going to happen in your comfort zone. It is going to happen in your doing zone.

If you want less, stay in your comfort zone. If you want more, then make your way out of your comfort zone.

The question is, ‘Do you have the courage to take the first step?’

As always, when things get tough, remember, You are more, not less!

6 Important Lessons From Rachel Hollis On How To Put Life Back Together

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Connor McMannus

As the old saying goes, “You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.” You can’t control life, but you can control your own life. Live your life. Do not destroy yourself just to make other people happy.

If you are not happy, it is because you are not brave enough to face your life. No matter what is going on out there, it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. If you can’t do it for you, who do you think is going to do it for you. If you are honest with yourself, the answer is you.

If you want to put your life together, here are some strategies, according to Rachel Hollis.

She says, “Don’t fear your weakness, fear drowning in despair for the rest of your time on earth because you were too afraid to confront your pain.” No matter what you are going through in your life, if you want to put your life together, do not “cover your pain to make other people more comfortable.”

She says, “If you want to move forward, be honest about what’s going on even if it’s only to yourself.” If you have the courage to be honest with yourself, that is good enough.

She says, “Stop trying to cover up your emotions, or, frankly, anything you don’t like about yourself or your feelings, with a new coat of paint. … But in order to do that, you’ve got to be real. You have to allow yourself to truly feel what you feel before you can feel what you’d like.” Allow yourself to be you, to express yourself. If you don’t express your God-given self, then what are you doing with it?

She says, “Have the courage to admit who you are, even if it’s only to yourself at first.” Have the courage to admit who you are to yourself, to your mnd, to your body, and to your soul. Why is that? To know others, you must first know yourself. If not, you are faking it. Do not fake your way through life. Live your way through life. Grow your way through life. Do not be scared to set boundaries for yourself. They work.

She says, “When one thing changes, everything changes, even if it takes you a bit to admit it and adjust.” When something changes in your life, you are no longer the same person. Change is important. See it as a blessing, not as a curse.

She says, “You are going to have to love yourself enough to seek help. You are going to have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself. You are going to have to love yourself enough to believe that you can be better, that you will be better, next time. You are also going to have to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who weaponizes your guilt and uses it against you.” You have the power to do whatever you want. But to do that, you have got to be real with yourself.

Remember, according to Rachel Hollis, “You are an ever-evolving being who will continue to change over time.”