Tag: Trust

God’s Love

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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God’s love is unconditional. It is peaceful. If you are looking for love, real love, seek God’s love.

It is what you need when you are happy. God’s love is what you need when things are not going well. God’s love is what you need when your friends are gone.

Rely on God’s love. Do not worry about what your friends are saying about you. If you rely on God’s love, you have everything. You have life. You have yourself.

When things are down, when the road ahead is unknown, rely on God’s love. In his book Dwell on These Things: A Thirty-One- Day Challenge to Talk to Yourself Like God Talks to You, John Stange writes, “God’s love can be relied on when you’re in the middle of drama. God’s love can be relied on when your friends desert you. God’s love can be relied on when you’ve made major mistakes. God’s love can be relied on when you’re trying to bounce back from whatever’s got you down.”

Whatever you are going through, do not rely on people. They will disappoint you. They will desert you. They will live you where you are. But God will never live you alone. He believes in you. He just want you to trust yourself, to believe in yourself.

Do not worry about anything. Rely on God’s love. He will save you. He won’t run away from you. The question is, do you trust yourself?

This Is What Happens When You Stop Talking

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by mentatdgt

Stop talking. It is listening time. It is time to let go of what you know. It is time to learn from other people. It is time to respect other people. Why is that? Because listening to others is a sign of respect.

When you listen to others, here are some of the things you are saying to them: I hear you. I love you. You are a human being. I respect you. Your problem is my problem. We are in this together. We will get through it together. I want to learn from you. You know what I do not know. You have something important to say. I value you. We can work together. You are the boss, not me. I want to hear your struggles. I want to learn from your successes. I want you to be free to express yourself. I don’t want you to hold anything back. I want you to help me become a better learner, a better listener, a better leader.

If you want to become a better person, you must first learn how to listen.

We learn more when we listen. We miss more when we talk.

According to Amy Cuddy, “When you stop talking, stop preaching, and listen, here’s what happens: People can trust you. … if you do not have people’s trust, you will find it very hard to influence them in a deep and lasting way. You acquire useful information, which makes it more easier to solve any problem you face. You begin to see other people as individuals- and maybe even allies. You no longer see other people as stereotypes. You develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and even adopt. When people contribute to the solutions- when they are co-owners of them- they are more likely to commit to and follow through with them. When people feel heard, they are more willing to listen. … If people don’t feel that you ‘get’ them, they are not inclined to invest their time and energy in activities- such as listening- that will help them to understand you.”

Just listen. Stop preaching. If you want others to hear you, you must first hear them.

Further Reading:

Cuddy, A., Presence: Bringing your BOLDEST SELF to your BIGGEST CHALLENGES (New York: Hachette Book Group, 2015): 78-81.