Why You Should Stop Searching For Happiness

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Happiness is driving the world crazy. We want happiness. We want it today. We want it now. We want happiness, but the question is, “Are we doing the right things? Are we loving ourselves? Are we loving other people? Are we giving out enough love? Are we giving out enough happiness? If not, we should stop searching for happiness.

You can’t find happiness by searching for it. You find happiness by giving it out to other people. Happiness is about love. It is about gratitude. It is about kindness.

If happiness is what you really want, if happiness is what is driving you crazy, stop searching for it. Because you will never find it. Why? Because happiness is a spiritual thing. You can’t touch it. You can’t catch it. You can’t move it. You can’t see it. But you can feel it.

Yes, you can feel it. It is about how you conduct yourself every day. It is about how you live your life every day. If you want to make yourself happier, according to Christian D. Larson, “Simply exercise general self-control in everything you do.”

Accept Everything About Yourself

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Self-acceptance is self-love. Self-love is the beginning of your life. It doesn’t matter what you have been through in your life. It doesn’t matter where you are now. What really matters is you. You matter. Your life matters. Your self-worth matters.

No matter what you may have been through, don’t let that define your life. Don’t let your past mistakes define you. Because you are not your mistakes. You are you. You are unique. You are smarter, better, stronger than your mistakes. Do not define your life by your mistakes, by your failures, or by your disappointments. Define your life by your successes. Define your life by what you have done right, by your victories.

Our lives are not without failures. Our lives are not without mistakes. Our lives are not without weaknesses. But you must accept them and and manage to live with them. Eric Hoffer famously said, “You must accept certain unlovely things about yourself- and manage to live with them. The atonement for such an acceptance is that you make allowances for others- that you cleanse yourself of the sin of self-righteousness.” He adds: “The end comes when we no longer talk with ourselves. It is the end of genuine thinking, and the beginning of the final loneliness.”

Do not let the opinions of other people to control your life. Do not listen to other people’s opinions. Listen to yourself. Listen to your inner self. Listen to your body. Listen to your soul. It doesn’t matter what people are saying about you. Focus on yourself. Focus on where you are going. Where you are going matters. Your actions matter. If you really want to achieve your purpose, you must listen to yourself. Can you do it?