8 Simple Tips To Find True Happiness In Life, According To Epictetus

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When you have decided to do something, always try to do your best work.

When you have decided that a thing ought to be done, and you are doing it, never shun being seen doing it, even though the multitude should be likely to judge the matter amiss. For if you are not acting rightly, shun the act itself; if rightly, however, why fear misplaced censure.”- Epictetus

Do not ignore your goals. You must do what you have to do to make your dreams come true.

“First, say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”- Epictetus

No thing great is created suddenly

“No thing great is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.”- Epictetus

You are responsible for your own happiness

“If any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone.”-Epictetus

Never stop learning

“For it is impossible for a man to begin to learn what he has a conceit that he already knows.”- Epictetus

Choose your friends wisely

“Try to enjoy the great festival of life with other men.”- Epictetus

You are the master of your own life.

“Thou shalt not blame or flatter any.”- Epictetus

Do not worry yourself about things not in your control

“Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one world, whatever are not our own actions.”- Epictetus

You Can Make Yourself Happy, According To Psychology

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“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”– Richard Bach

Does your happiness depend on other people’s lives? Does your happiness depend on your job? Does your happiness depend on your pocket (money)?

If your happiness depends on those things, you do have a problem. Nothing can make you happy but yourself. No one can make you happy. No one can bring you happiness but yourself. If you really care about your happiness, focus on your purpose in life. Purpose brings happiness.

You can’t buy happiness, but meaningful things can make you happy. If you want to make yourself happy, I mean really happy, you must focus on doing meaningful things. Good things can make you happy, not people. Don’t expect happiness from anyone. No one can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy. Don’t go around chasing happiness. All you need to do is look within yourself. Happiness is in your mind. If you want to make yourself happy, don’t allow negative thoughts to take charge of your life.

According to Franz Schubert, “You believe happiness to be derived from the place in which once you have been happy, but in truth it is centered in ourselves.” Your happiness is centered in yourself. Your happiness is your choice. You can make yourself happy. You can make yourself happy by changing the relationship you have with yourself. When it comes to happiness, how you see yourself matters. It matters more than anything else. When you change how you see yourself, your life will change. Your personality will change. Your future will change. Above all, your self-esteem will go up.

You can make yourself happy if you have the courage to love yourself. Love is the real happiness. Why? Yes, because if you don’t love yourself, you can’t make yourself happy. Everything starts with love. Love is in charge of our lives. When you are in love with yourself, your life will reflect it. Sigmund Freud famously said, “We must begin to love in order not to fall ill.” So, if you want to make yourself happy, make yourself happy. But don’t expect to be happy every day. It is not going to happen. You must accept what you have. Everything is not going to go your way. You must be happy with what you have, where you are, and move on with your life.

Are you ready to make yourself happy?