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It Is Better To Do Something That Is Going To Help You Grow And Change The Direction Of Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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You can complain all you want. You can think negative thoughts all you want. But one thing is clear: If you want to get better in your life, you must do something that has the power to help you grow and change the direction of your life. That is what life is all about: growth.

If you are not growing, you are dying. Your life is yours to take care of. If you are not doing it, then you are wasting it. Life is precious. Do not waste it. Instead of wasting your time, why not use your time to do something productive, something that can change the direction of your life? Why not use it to grow yourself, to get rid of what is holding you back, to meet new people, to challenge yourself? Why not? What is wrong with that?

Isn’t that better than trying to please other people? Isn’t that better than trying to attract people who are not interested in you, trying to fit in? If you want to make the world a better place, it is better to start with yourself. Why is that? Without you, no one is going to be able to change your world.

So if you want a better world, you must start with yourself. You do that by being honest with yourself. When you are honest with yourself, you can fix anything in your life. When you are honest with your life, you will attract other honest people into your world.

If you do not like something in your life, you are the only person who can get rid of it. If you are struggling to get things done, don’t hang around people who are not getting things done. If you want to grow, you must keep moving. You must keep doing. And you must keep going.

If they don’t want to change, if they don’t want to grow, you can walk away. Walking away doesn’t mean they are not your friends. They are, but you are just sending a message to them that things need to change. Whether you like it or not, your life is going to change. It is either you change your life, or your situation is going to change your life. You must decide.

You have the power to decide which direction you want your change to go. No one is going to do that for you. You are the only person who has access to your personal account. If you want your account to reflect who you are, then you must take action. Things need to change. Taking action means changing something.

Are you going to like it? The answer is no. Because no one likes change. Why is that? Because change is hard. Change is uncertain. Change is not comfortable. And we all want to be comfortable. Who doesn’t want to be comfortable? If you are going to achieve your greatness, you must position yourself for greatness.

5 Simple Ways To Manage Your Own Stress

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Stress is here to stay. To deal with it, take care of yourself. Take care of your thoughts. Do not make things too difficult for yourself. And do not take more than you can do. 
It is not going to go away. No one is stress-free. The difference is how you manage it. To put your stress under your control, you can apply the following strategies, according to Dr. Rob Yeung, psychologist

Know where your stress is coming from. If you know where your stress is coming from, you will know what to do about it. If you want to control your stress, it is not about taking vacation, but about taking care of your thoughts. According to Dr. Rob, 'The cause of stress doesn't have to be one thing- it can result from build up of work difficulties, family conflicts, money troubles, relationship issues, injuries and illnesses, and day-to-day worries and hassles.'' No matter where your stress is coming from, the best thing to do about it is to align your thoughts with your actions. Then you can manage it. 

Occupy your mind with positive thoughts. Remember, whatever you do, they are the products of your thoughts. So if you want to feel really good about yourself, you must put the right thoughts into your mind. Dr Rob writes, 'Stress isn't about what is going on in the world around you. It's about how you think and feel and see the world and yourself.'' Wow! Let me ask you. How do you see the world around you? What are you constantly entertaining in your mind? Is it something positive? Or is it something negative? Look, don't kid yourself. To get something done in life, you must take care of your thoughts. You must take care of your mind. Do not abuse your mind. Use the power of your mind to get your life to the next level. And you can get there. Just be patient with yourself.

Focus on purposeful things. Do not forget why you are here. In case you do not remember, let me remind you. 'You are here to do great things.' You are not here to kid around. You are here to make a difference. To get there, you have got to focus your attention on things that can change your life. And to know whether you are helping or hurting yourself, ask yourself this question, according to Dr. Rob, 'Do you feel that you spend enough of your time doing things that are meaningul?' It is a good question. Be honest about your answer. If you are not doing meaningful things, meaning things that can change your life, then you are wasting your time. 

Focus on what matters. When you feel stressed out, do not panic, just focus on what matters. Everything is not important to your goals. But some things are. Focus on them. And let go of the ones that are not. In the words of Dr. Rob, 'Focusing on what matters and is meaningful to us may help to inoculate us from stress and even protect our physical health.'' 

Take care of your emotions. Human beings are emotional animals. If you want to connect with your inner self, you must learn to put your emotions under your belt. Remember, whatever you can't control, is going to control you. You will find peace if you can master your emotions. Do not let your emotions master you. Why is that? Because you are in charge of your life, not your emotions.

Bonus quotes on managing your stress.
'Taking control by choosing to apply a negative label may not just help people to feel more powerful- it may also help them to appear more powerful in the eyes of others.'- Dr. Rob Yeung

'People who attribute their emotional distress to passion get rated more highly than people who merely blame their emotions.'- Dr. Rob Yeung

'Add up all of those daily email interruptions and that could amount to a real hit to your performance, productivity and stress levels.'- Dr. Rob Yeung