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If You Do Not Change What Is Not Working, You Cannot Focus On What Is Working For You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth, Spirituality, Success
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Growth is not always comfortable. Growth requires us to leave where we are, to do something different, to learn something new, to meet someone who annoys us all the time, and to be ready to grow.

We are human beings. We want to grow, but we don’t want to be uncomfortable. In truth, if we really want to grow, to be happy, to expand, we must be willing and be ready to be uncomfortable. There is no success without pain. There is no happiness without darkness. You cannot move from where you are to where you want to be if you are not ready to be uncomfortable.

It feels good to repeat the same thing every day. That is how we operate. We love routine tasks. We love to stay where we are used to. But if you want to stretch yourself, you must leave your safe zone. As Peter Drucker famously said, “If you don’t abandon, you can’t innovate.” Yes, if we want to happy, we must abandon what is making us unhappy.

If we want to grow in life, we must abandon the things that are holding us back. If we want to be healthy, we must take care of our minds. If we want to have peace of mind, we must do the right things.

You cannot expect to have peace of mind if you are doing the wrong things. It is only the right things that will bring you peace of mind. If you do right, expect right. If you do wrong, expect wrong. You can change the direction of your life by changing your thoughts. You have the power to do it. Do it yourself.

Is Blaming Others For Our Actions A Way Forward Or Backward?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Spirituality
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Why do we blame people for our actions? Is it the right thing to do? What do we do to stop blaming people for our actions?

When we blame people for our actions, we are not helping ourselves. We are hurting ourselves. We are giving our strengths away. We are stopping ourselves from learning new things.

In his book The Four Virtues of a Leader, Eric Kaufmann writes, “When you blame, you assign authority to the environment and stop focusing on the power of creating and shaping circumstances.” You don’t focus on your learning process when you blame others for your actions.

When you blame, you are giving your power away. You don’t take responsibility when you blame others. You don’t learn from your mistakes when you blame others. You don’t grow when you blame others. You are not helping others when you blame them for your own actions.

When you blame, you are not empowering yourself. But when you take responsibility for your actions, you are empowering yourself.

Robert Kiyosaki says, “When people are lame, they love to blame.” No matter what you are going through, don’t blame anyone for it. Take responsibility for your own actions. If you blame, you will continue to make the same mistakes.

If you want to grow, if you want to transform your life, do not blame someone else for your actions. Don,t blame yourself. Don’t blame your teacher. Don’t blame your boss for your mess. Don’t blame your government for your financial condition. Don’t blame your coworkers for your mess. Always take responsibility for your actions.

It is hard to take responsibility for our actions. But when we do, we are better of than not taking full responsibility. When you make a mistake, instead of blaming yourself or others for it, take full responsibility for your mistake.

People who take responsibility for their actions are more successful than those who blame others for their actions. Why is that? Because they learn from their mistakes. You cannot move forward if you do not take full responsibility for your actions. In her book Emotional Fitness: Discovering our Natural Healing Power, Janice Berger writes, “Our life is transformed when we can stop blaming.”

If you want to expand your life, stop blaming.

Are you ready to stop blaming others for your actions?