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How To Remove Your Self-Imposed Limitations

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Self-imposed limitations are the things we tell yourselves that we cannot do. Self-imposed limitations can cause you to stay where you are, because your mind has accepted them as real. If you allow your self-imposed limitations to become your reality, they will prevent you from becoming who you really are. They will stop you from reaching your goal. They will prevent you from doing the things you were created to do.

The problem with self-imposed limitations is, when you tell yourself what you cannot do, you can rarely do more than your limits.

Self-imposed limitations:

  • Are artificial
  • They are not real. They are self-created
  • Subjective- they are what you tell yourself
  • They can be changed
  • They underestimate you and others
  • They can keep you in your comfort zone if you don’t act
  • They will take time to change, so be patient.

If you want to be successful, you must first get rid of those self-imposed limitations that are holding you back. Self-imposed limitations are not real; they are man-made limitations.

Let us look at some common ones and how to get rid of them.

Perfectionism. Perfectionism prevents people from living their lives. No one is perfect. If you want to succeed, strive for excellence, not perfection. In their book, Awakening the Workplace, Rhonda Victoor writes, “When we succumb to perfectionism or procrastination (both of which are lying to ourselves) we set ourselves up for a gloriously average career and perpetual disappointment.”

Procrastination. If you want to achieve success in life, learn not to put things off until tomorrow. You will not achieve greatness if you keep putting things off until tomorrow. Whatever is due today, do it today, not tomorrow. According to Rhonda Victoor, “Every time we procrastinate on important tasks, we lie to ourselves. We make other things, like “busy work” or being perfect, more important than getting the job done.”

Blaming Others. If you want to grow, you must hold yourself accountable for your own mess. Don’t blame other people for your mess, blame yourself. When you blame other people for your mistakes or failures, you are giving your power away. If you want to learn from your mistakes, don’t shift them to the next guy, own them. That is the only way to learn from mistakes. Winston Churchill said, “The price of greatness is responsibility.”

Making excuses. Excuses will not bring success to you. They will fill your storage room with failures. Don’t hide behind excuses. If you don’t know what you want out of your life, reach out to people for help. In his book, The Magic of Thinking Big, Dr. David J. Schwartz wrote, “You will discover that excusitis explains the difference between the person who is going places and the fellow who is barely holding his own.” If you want to grow, if you want to be greater, stop making excuses.

How To Remove Your Self-imposed Limitations

It is going to take time. You are going to be very patient. You can remove them by:

  1. Changing your mindset. Everything starts in your mind. If you want to get rid of these self-imposed limitations, you start by changing your mindset about yourself. Change how you evaluate yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others. Believe in yourself. If you don’t like what is happening to you now, change it. If you don’t like your life, change it. If you don’t like your career, change it. To change your world, you have to change how you think about your world.
  2. Take action. The only existing medication to cure self-imposed limitations is action. Action cures everything. If you want to get results that will change your life, take action. “If you have a problem, act now, or pay later.”- Anonymous
  3. Do what you fear. Whatever it is that you are afraid of, embrace it today. You have to overcome your fears to succeed. If you keep running away from your fear, your success will keep running away from you. You must face your fears if you want to succeed.
  4. Commit yourself to what you want. Don’t let setbacks frustrate you. Let feelings of frustration move you to change your life. Prepare to achieve what you want. Commit yourself to your goal. If you prepare, you will win.

Your self-imposed limitations are fake, not real. Burst them today!

Are You Afraid Of Failure?

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“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”- Paulo Coelho

Most people don’t succeed in life because they don’t want to fail. They want to be ready before they start. Remember, you cannot be perfect before you start something that will change your life; you have to start to be perfect.

Peter Drucker said, “Wherever there is success, there has to be failure.” You cannot succeed without first learning how to fail. John Maxwell wrote a book about how to fail forward. If you want to succeed in life, in your business, in your career, in your relationships, you have to be comfortable with failing forward. Failing forward is good. Failing backward is bad.

Don’t be afraid of failure. If you want to succeed, you cannot avoid failure. Successful people know how to fail forward. They love failing, because it shows them what to do next, what to learn, and how to move forward. Dell Crossword said, “Success is not permanent, neither is failure.” Failure is not permanent. Success is not permanent. If you fail, don’t make it permanent. Failure has lessons to teach you. It is not here to destroy you.

How To Conquer Fear Of Failure

If you want to conquer fear of failure, do the following things:

  • Know that if you want to succeed, failure is unavoidable
  • Do what you fear. Take more risks
  • Try things that you have not tried before. Begin small.
  • Don’t start with the hard things; they will increase your fear. Start with small things to build your confidence.
  • Reach out to people who have done the same thing that you are about to start.
  • Know yourself. Know what you can handle. Know when to say enough is enough.
  • When you succeed at overcoming your fear, keep doing what works for you.
  • Never give up. You will fail, but never give up.

Finally, according to Jim Rohn, “One of the reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.”