6 Simple Ways To Stop Worrying

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We are human beings. It is okay to worry about what you can change. It is not okay to waste your time worrying about what you cannot do anything about.

What are you worrying about? Is it what you can change? Or, is it what you cannot Change? If you can change it, worry about it. But if you cannot change a thing about it, stop worrying about it and start living your life.

What is Worry?

Norman Vincent Pearle said, “It is an unhealthy and destructive mental habit.” Worry is a mental habit. You can either maintain it or get rid of it. It is not helping you. It is hurting you. It steals your happiness away. It wastes your time. It makes you unstable in life. It causes you to make irrational decisions. It will be better for you to get rid of it.

James Allen said, “Out of a clean heart comes a clean life and a clean body.” If your heart is clean, your body, your actions, your thoughts, and your environment will be clean. What is happening to you on the outside is a reflection of what is happening in your mind. You can control your mind by controlling what you think about. If you think about negative things, you will attract negative things into your life. But if you focus on the good things that are happening around you, you will live a great life.

In the words of Leo Buscaglia, “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of it joy.” To live a focused life is to learn how to live in the moment. Living in the moment keeps you grounded. It helps you focus on doing the right, and the most important things. If you spend your time worrying about common things, you will miss the good things that today has in store for you.

If you want to stop worrying and start living, here is how to go about it:

Believe you can do it. The first step to getting something done is to believe in yourself. If you believe you can do it, you can. If you don’t believe you can, you cannot.

Meditate. Meditation will help you focus your mind on positive things. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Stay away from negative things, negative people. Focus your attention on what is working for you.

Surround yourself with positive people. Positive people will lift you up. Negative people will pull you down. You cannot go anywhere if you surround yourself with people who are tearing you apart. You can only do great things in life if you surround yourself with great people. If you do that, you will be great.

Write down what you are worrying about. Writing it down will allow you to analyze why you are worrying about it. When you write it down, how you are going to change it will show up in your life.

Connect within. If you want to really stop worrying about unnecessary things, you must look within. The power to stop your anxiety is within you. If you look outside for solutions, you will get nothing. The answers are within, not without. In the words of Dr. Wayne Dyer, “When a problem arises, go within. Get very quiet about it. Use it to learn something.”

Stop thinking about yourself. I am not saying you should ignore your wants and needs. That is not what I am saying. Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “You are totally free when you are able to stop thinking about yourself and your self-importance.”

Worrying does not help, it hurts. Stay positive.


Why are you not living your dreams?

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Why are you not living your dreams? What is standing in your way? What is stopping you from living your dreams? Do you want to start living your dreams today? Do you have a dream? If you have one or two, how big, how inspiring, how motivating?

Big dreams motivate people to do more. Small dreams do not motivate people to stretch themselves, because there is no energy in them. If you want your dream to move you to action, it has to be a big dream.

The number one thing that is stopping people from living their lives is FEAR. Fear has rendered people useless. Fear has prevented people from reaching their destinations. Fear has paralyzed people from moving forward. It is not lack of talent that is crippling brilliant people. It is fear.

Fear is stealing people’s dreams away from them. We fear everything in life. We fear talking to people we don’t know. We fear success. We fear failure (the big one). We fear what people will say about us (another elephant in the room). We even fear ourselves. We fear promotions. We fear celebrations (small or big). We fear criticism. We fear doing new things. We fear creativity. We fear everything. Yes, we fear everything under the sun. The question is: “Why?”

Fear is not real. What we fear is not real. It is self-made. It is created in our minds. If you want to face fear, take action. Actions cure fear. Actions put fear to rest. If you want to be successful in life, you must face your own fear. Yes, your own fear, not my fear. Because we fear different things. Your fear is not my fear. My fear is not your fear. Fear is unique. You cannot be successful if you don’t have the courage to face your fear. If you have the courage to face your fear, you have conquered it. It will surrender to your request. If you face fear, fear will be powerless. It will not have power over your dreams. It will not have power over you. You will be the winner, and fear will be the loser.

If you don’t have the courage to face your fear, you will not have the courage to succeed. Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian novelist, says, “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” This is one of the reasons people don’t do well in life.They are afraid to fail. They don’t want to make mistakes. If you don’t want to make mistakes, you don’t want to succeed. Period. To succeed in life, accept failure as a part of the game. Life is a game. Summer Redstone said, “Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe.” Failure is part of the journey to success. If you want to succeed, be ready to fail. As John Maxwell said, “Failing Forward.” It means when you fail at something, get up and move on. Don’t stay there. If you do, it means you have really failed. I hope you will not stay there.

People don’t succeed in life because they fear what other people will say about them. They don’t do anything because they fear what other people will say about their projects, their jobs, their lives, and their ideas. But you cannot succeed if you keep paying attention to naysayers. They are naysayers. They are nearsayers, not realsayers. The realsayer is you. They will always have something to say about you. That is their daily job, not yours. So, why worry? Success comes from criticism. Let them criticize you. Be ready to be criticized if you are to succeed. As Joyce Meyer says, “If we try to build our lives on what people say and think of us- how they treat us, how we feel, or our past mistakes- we are building on sinking sand.” Let people keep talking. You keep doing great things. Don’t listen to them. If you do, you are giving them a weapon to crush you with. Keep moving forward, not backward.

If you want to succeed, it is on the other side of the bridge. It is on the other side of fear. It is on the other side of the road. As George Addair observed: “Everything you’ve wanted is on the other side of fear.” To succeed, to live your dreams, to live and enjoy your life, you have to confront your fear. No one will do it for you. You are the only one who can change your life, because you are the master of your life. You can only be the master of your life if you face your fear, if you face what you fear the most.

Fear prevents people from doing their best work. You cannot succeed without doing your best work. No one will pay you handsomely for a terrible job. You get paid handsomely for a handsomely done job. You need your best work to succeed. Fear keeps people in their comfort zones, even though nothing good ever comes from staying in your comfort zone. It is just a comfort zone. It makes you comfortable, but unproductive. If you want to do great things, get out of your comfort zone. Make yourself uncomfortable to grow, because growth is not comfortable. If you want to grow, be ready to be uncomfortable for a while. It is temporary, not permanent. Growth is change, and change is not funny at all.

Fear prevents people from stretching themselves, because they are scared of making mistakes. Instead, they keep doing the same, old boring stuff over and over again with no progress. They have succumbed to fear. As a result, they would rather stay where is comfortable than to take risks. The result: no growth. As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”

If you want to grow, take action. If you want to conquer fear, take action. Actions cure fear. Actions cure everything. Take action!

Worry About What You Can Control

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Why are people worrying about what they cannot control? We cannot control everything that happens to us, but we can control certain things. If you waste your precious time worrying about what you cannot control, you are not helping yourself, but hurting yourself. Stop doing that.

You cannot control all the things that are happening in our society, but you can control how you respond to them, how you think about them, and how you associate yourself with them. What is happening inside you is within your control. But what is happening outside you is beyond your power. So don’t try to control what is beyond your power. When you do that, you are putting yourself under pressure.

You can control how you respond to other people’s attitudes, but you cannot control how other people treat you. That is their own behavior, not yours.

If you want to live a stress-free life, learn to separate what you can manage from what you cannot manage. Learn to separate reality from fiction. You must also learn how to set priorities that matter to you, so that you don’t waste your time worrying about useless things.

When you fail at something, don’t worry too much about it, because you cannot change the outcome anymore. Going forward, you can control your habits- the things you do every day.

Focus your energy on things that can change your life, not things that cannot change your life. Focus on controlling your attitude, your emotions, and the treatment of things around you. Those things you can control, but the results you cannot.

Stop worrying and start living!