Tag: Negative Emotions

When Your Ego Is In Charge

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

You are where you are because your ego wants you to be there. You hate where you are. You don’t want to be there, but your ego says, ‘It is the best place for you.’

The question is, ‘Is where you are the best place for you? Is it making you happy? Are you getting what you want? Are you growing? Are you adding value to your life? Are you adding value to other people? Are you expanding your social connections?

Are you in charge of your life? If things are not going well, you can make things better. If you are struggling to find your voice, you can find your voice. If you are not where you are supposed to be, just know that you are making progress.

Do not forget that great things take time. If you want to achieve great things, you have got to be patient with yourself.

Your ego is there to protect you. But if you don’t act, if you don’t question what you are doing, if you are not doing what you think you should be doing, your ego is going to run wide. You will never know what is going on in your world. Why is that? Because your ego wants you to live in the same place. Your ego wants you to be safe, to play a safe game. Your ego wants you to believe that you are the smartest in the world, that no one is smarter than you, that you know everything, that you don’t need to ask for help.

Don’t let your ego be the boss. If you want to win in your life, you must be the boss, your own boss. How do you do that? You start by taking your life into your hands.

If you are not comfortable with something, do not tolerate it. Question it. If you are scared of doing something, ask yourself why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Don’t settle for small things.

Whatever it is that you want to achieve in your life, you can make it happen. The question is, ‘Who is in charge of your life? Ego? Or you?

How To Create Your Own Life On Your Own Terms

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Artem Podrez on Pexels.com
You can create your own life on your own terms.
And the best life to live is your own life.
You can live it. Do not let anybody tell you that you 
can't create your own life. Of course, you can.
To start, you can start with the following strategies, according to 
Paul Napper and Anthony Rao, PhDs.

Never stop learning. ''... to be an effective learner, you need to adjust 
or at times suspend your opinions and personal beliefs, 
sometimes even deeply held ones , to position yourself to learn.''
You can't learn if all you know is yourself. To learn, you must be present.

Learn how to 'manage your exposure'
''Managing your exposure to external stimuli will increase the quality 
of your thinking, the quality of your judgment, and the quality of your life overall.''

Spend time with quality people.
Yes, with quality people. You need it. Why is that? 
According to Napper & Rao, ''Spending time with empathetic,
optimistic, open-minded people and weeding out those 
who have opposite qualities will boost your mood, elevate your motivation,
and improve your health.'' Life is short. So make sure you are 
spending quality time with quality people. It is good for your dreams.
It is good for your life. And it is good for your happiness. 

Manage your emotions.
If you want to enjoy your life, you must master your own emotions.
Do not let your emotions master you. If they do, your life is going to be 
miserable. According to Napper and Rao, 'Increasing your awareness of emotions
and beliefs drive your thinking, influence your behaviour, 
and affect your judgment will help you navigate life with confidence.''
To master your life, you must master your emotions.