There is no BUT in love. If you love me, do not compare me to others. Even if you do not love me, DON’T compare me to others.
It is better to be with someone who appreciates everything about you, who loves you for who you are, who celebrates your flaws, who makes you laugh, who brings out the best in you, who is comfortable spending time with you, who is always there for you, than to be with someone who is ALWAYS comparing you to someone else.
When someone compares you to someone else, it means you are not good enough for them. Do not let people’s opinions control your life. Because you are living your life for yourself, not for people. When people say, “You are not good enough for them, it means they are not good enough for you.” You should let them go. Because you do not need draggers in your life. You need lifters to help you get to the next level. It is better to be free with one great person than to be lonely in company of many people.
Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. You often hear people say something like, “I want to be alone.” Vs. “I am lonely.” They sound different, and they are really different.
What does it mean to be alone? And, what does it mean to be lonely?
You can choose to be alone. You can also choose to be lonely. It is your choice.
When people are alone, it does not mean they are lonely. It means they want time for themselves. They want to be alone because they want to do creative things. They want to think. They want to read. They want to meditate. They want to reach out to their inner creative being. Being alone allows people to reach out to their inner selves. So, when you are alone, you are dealing with your inner being- your true being. In order to be alone, you must FIRST master the art and science of being alone. Being alone is not for the small-minded people.
Being alone is not for the small-minded people because it requires people to practice being independent. If you are not mature, if you are not independent, if you are not self-confident, being alone will be difficult to master. For example, if you write for a living, you need alone time to dig deeper into your creative world. Being alone is a good thing, not a bad thing. It allows you to dig deeper into your TRUE life. It creates the space for you to discover your true self, to evaluate yourself, and to practice self-reflection. It is when you are alone that you discover who you really are, what you want to accomplish, what is important to you, and what makes you really happy. Those are some benefits of being alone, but not lonely.
Loneliness, on the other hand, means a different thing entirely. If you feel lonely, it means you feel disconnected from the things around you. It means you want to live inside yourself. You don’t want to be connected with anything. One thing with loneliness is that, you can be with people, you can be in a crowd, or you can be in a market place without connecting to any of them. That is the sad part of being lonely. But you can change it. You can change from being a loner to being a social being.
If you find yourself moving away from people, you don’t want to see people, you feel disconnected from reality, don’t move further away from people. Find a way or ways to move closer to people. Remember, people love you. They don’t dislike you. They want to meet you. But they cannot meet you when you are running away from them. Focus on people, but don’t forget about yourself. People will move closer to you if you make the first move. Show your love, your BIG love for people, for things around you, and for the environment. They will love you back. If you want love, give love to people. If you want happiness, make people happy. If you want care, care for people. If you want closeness, be close to people. That is the way life works.
Finally, if you find yourself lonely, reach out to people you know. People who can lift you up, not those that will make things worse for you. When you are down, you need a lifter. If you are lonely, care. Care for yourself, for people, and for the environment. If you do, you will be a better person.
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