Tag: Identity

How To Change Your Identity

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Improve Academy, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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Your real identity is not your passport. Your real identity is not your job. Your identity is not your bank account. Your real identity is not your fancy cars. It is not your gated-community.

So what is your real Identity? Your real identity, again, is not who the world says you are. It is not who other people say you are. It is not who your friends say you are. It is not who your boss says you are. It is not what anyone can just talk about. It is not what any success can do for you. Your identity, your real identity, is who you say you are. Your identity is your face in the world. Your identity is your uniqueness. Your identity is how you treat yourself. It is how you treat other people. It is how you live your life. It is how you do your work. Above all, it is what matters the most to you.

The problem with identity is that many people are just walking around with the wrong faces. They are living their double lives. They are in the wrong jobs. They are in the wrong relationships. They are doing the wrong things. Why? Because they are answering to the world, not to themselves. They are paying attention to what the world wants, not what their souls are crying for.

If that is you, wherever you are, you can do something about it. Yes, you can change your identity. You can change your life by changing your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions. You can. The queston is, ‘Will you?’

If you want your life to change today, then you have got to be real with yourself. Ask yourself, ‘Am I really who I say I am?’ If yes, you are great! If not, you must get to work. Don’t stay the same. Don’t listen to those who want you to stay the same. Don’t let fear keep you stuck. Start small. The people you admire today started small. Successful people are not perfect. But they started. You can do the same. Start as a little baby. And never stop doing it until you get what you want. Because life is going to test you. Failure will test you. People will test you. Disappointments will test you. And success will test you.

Life is going to throw things at you. You will face problems. You will face hurdles that are bigger than you. But don’t let those things stop you from living your real identity. Because if you do not have the courage to put yourself out there, to do what is difficult, to face your fears, to face your demons, your identity will stay the same. Your life will stay the same. But you can change your path today, right now. But how?

Remember, you can change your identity. You can choose you. You can learn more about yourself. You can ask real questions. You can learn to do things differently. You can learn to take actions, actions that can change your life. You can learn how to attract great people. You can learn to set your own gaols. And pursue them without any delay. You can learn to be who you are. Above all, to really change your identity, your thoughts must be in alignment with your values. If not, you are not living your life. You are living other people’s dreams.

If that is what you want for yourself, then that is okay. You don’t need to change anything. But if you want something different, then you must push forward.

‘How Working Women Can Overcome Stress, Guilt, And Overload To Find True Success’

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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When you manage yourself, you manage your life. When you manage your life, you manage yourself.

When you can manage yourself, then, only then, can you manage your work.

To overcome stress, guilt, and overload, according to Meghan French Dunbar,

‘A holistic approach blending numerous healthy ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ traits has been proven to be far more effective, driving better employee engagement and retention; decreasing the likelihood of burnout; increasing employees’ feeling of thriving outside work; building more trust with the team; and increasing innovation, creativity, and team member growth.’

‘Before heading into significant meetings, presentations, events, or even one-on-one conversations, review your values and reflect on how they could guide you in this interaction.’

‘Cultivating authentic leadership means doing the work necessary to feel comfortable in your own skin– to value the experience regardless of who else is in the room and offer it freely, knowing that it benefits you and those around you.’

‘When following the crowd means stifling your truth, compromising your values, or holding your true self back, you’ll never be able to fully step into your authentic power.’

‘Trying to assimilate by changing yourself has been linked to loss of identity and increased depression, mental illness, burnout, and chronic disease.’

‘… If you regularly give your limited energy to things that fall outside what you claim to value, you can’t genuinely live according to your values.’

‘Optimized leaders understand that being overextended, stressed, or depleted stands in the way of being their best selves.’

‘When you’re exhausted, depleted, and overextended, you can’t tune into yourself and show up with intention.’

‘Difficult as it might be, part of optimizing yourself might be releasing people from your life who aren’t aligned with your values; consistently drain your energy, feel exploitative; lead to frequent unnecessary drama…’

‘When you insist on controlling everything in your life ... you put unnecessary stress on yourself and deny the people around you the opportunity to step up and grow.’

Source

Meghan French Dunbar (2025). This Isn’t Working: How Working Women Can Overcome Stress, Guilt, and Overload to Find True Success