Tag: Self-Compassion

How To Treat Yourself?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in BriSights, Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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‘How you treat others is often a reflection of your relationship with yourself. When you find yourself irritated by colleagues, recognise that you might be as harsh on them as you are on yourself.’- Naomi Shragai

When it comes to how you treat yourself, people are watching you. They are paying attention to how you are treating yourself. They are paying attention to what you do when you are stressed out, when things are not going well, when you are with your subordinates.

They are paying attention to how you are treating the world around you. They are watching because they want to know how to deal with you.

If you don’t treat yourself as a human being, no one is going to treat you as a human being.

If you can’t spend quality time with yourself, no one is going to spend quality time with you.

If you are not comfortable with yourself, if you are not comfortable with what you see in the mirror when you wake up in the morning, then don’t expect anything special from other people.

It is that simple, but it is hard to practice. No matter what, my friend, life is too short. Don’t expect everything to be perfect before you give yourself what you want from other people.

Don’t wait for the perfect time to say, ‘I love me’ to yourself. If you don’t say it, no one will say it. If you have been saying stupid things to yourself, you must stop it. Because you deserve better. Don’t wait anymore. Stop waiting. Because you can do it for yourself.

Remember, life is not going to give you what you can give yourself.

If you want a better job, go out there and look for one for yourself. If you can’t find one, then create one.

If you want to improve your relationship with yourself, then go out there and do what makes you happy.

If you want to improve your relationship with God, then you must spend time with God.

If you want to improve your relationships with your friends, then be a good friend to yourself, then you can extend your self-love to them.

If you want to create a better world, then start with yourself. The question is, ‘Will you?’

Source

Naomi Shragai (2021). The Man Who Mistook His Job for His Life: How to Thrive at Work by Leaving Your Emotional Baggage Behind

Give More Than You Take

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Improve Academy, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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People are looking for other people who care. If you care about other people, you are a change agent. You are a giver, not a taker.

Givers give to others. Takers take from others. Givers are in it for others. Takers are in it for themselves.

Let me tell you something: If you want to live a meaningful life, it is better to be a giver than a taker.

Because, according to Paul Polman and Andrew Winston, ‘Transformative leadership requires broad partnerships.’

‘Cultivate a sense of responsibility and duty to serve the world, and encourage people to bring their values to work.’

‘Help people in the business find what they do uniquely for the world (their purpose).’

‘Embrace empathy, compassion, and humility, and openly seek help and partnership from others.’

‘Reward courage, speak truth to power, and do what’s right for even if there are costs.’

‘Look forward to understand how the world’s needs will evolve and where the company’s purpose can best serve the world.’

‘Remove rigid constraints on what the company can work on, and give people space to think big, work for the long-term, and invest in the future.’

‘Work with society by proactively inviting them in instead of waiting for them to bang on- or knock down- the door.’

‘Worry less about who gets the credit, or how to compete on issues, and focus on broader solutions.’

‘Lead the work on the biggest, most complex shared problems.’

‘Listen to smart critics to undertand systemic challenges and hurdles.’

Source:

Paul Polman and Andrew Winston (2021). Net Positive: How Courageous Companies Thrive by Giving More Than They Take