The Power Of Suffering

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According to Anthony Robbins, ‘Is there an area of your life in which you feel unnecessary pain?

Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?

How could you change your focus and turn a seemingly painful event into a pleasurable opportunity to learn, to grow, or help others?

What are some of your pain-avoiding and pleasure-inducing patterns?

What are some of the more positive ways in which you could move away from pain and toward pleasure?’

Whether you want to face the above questions or not, you cannot live your life without pain. It is part of who we are. No one can achieve greatness without first going through pain.

If you want to change your life, you must be comfortable with discomfort. If you want to grow, you must ‘get comfortable with uncertainty’. Without it, you are playing! You are not going anywhere.

If you do not want to get comfortable with stress, then you are not going to be able to reach your greater heights.

If you want to be successful, you must face your pain. Pain is the way to your next level. It is pain before success. It is pain before growth. It is pain before self-discovery.

In her book Why You Should Empower Yourself: How to Make Lemonade when Life Gives You Lemons, Xenia Tchoumi writes, ‘Pain is a powerful transformative force for growth. You can’t become a better person or achieve your goals without going through a certain amount of discomfort and difficulty. No one has ever made it in life without encouraging some hurdles and failures.’ The author is right.

If you want to improve your life, you must embrace uncertainty. Do not ignore it. Do not run away from difficult things. The more you do, the better for you.

When you are faced with something that you have not done before, give it a shot. When you accept the pain as part of your own growth package, you will be able to cope with it. Don’t throw away an opportunity to grow.

If you want to grow your life, to expand your world, you must embrace discomfort. The question is, ‘Do you really know how to suffer?’

As always, you are more, not less!

Do Not Be Afraid To Change Your Mind

If things are not working for you, do not get frustrated. Do not beat yourself up. Ask yourself, ‘What is going on? Why am I not getting it right? What am I missing?’ Never ask, ‘Why me?’ That is not good. That is not good for you. Just because you are learning does not mean you are not going to get better.

Just beacuse you are struggling to understand something does not mean you are stupid. Just because you are still trying to know yourself better doesn’t mean you are a weak person. Just because you don’t want to be abused by those who don’t know you, that doesn’t mean you are a bad person. Or that you are a loner. You are not a loner. You love yourself. You don’t want to be abused by people who don’t know what it really means to be alive.

If something is not for you, do not pretend to like it. If you do, you are wasting your time. If you are not comfortable with people, do not pretend to like them. It is okay to say, ‘I love myself more.’ Do not pretend to do anything that you are not proud of. If you do, you are hurting yourself.