How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

Living A Life Of No Regret

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A life worth living might be measured in many ways, but the one way that stands above all others is living a life of no regret.’– Gary Keller with Jay Papasan

Live your life to the fullest. Do not worry yourself about what is happening around you. I am not saying you should forget about your people. That is not what I am saying.

When I say don’t worry about what is going on around you, I am talking about distractions, not your people. But your people can also distract you from reaching your goals.

If you see it coming to you, avoid it. It is better to avoid it. If you don’t, you are going to get distracted.

Distraction can lead to frustration. When you are not doing what is important to you, it can lead to a life of regret.

If you do not want to regret your life, don’t worry about things that are not going to help you get better. Instead, follow your heart. Listen to your heart.

What is your heart telling you to do? What are you hearing from within you? What are you thinking about every day? What really makes you happy? Above all, what do you stand for?

If you do not know what is important to you, that can get in your way of achieving your dreams.

Do not let that be you. Because life is too short. Whatever makes you happy, do it. Do not follow what others are doing. If it does not make sense to you, then don’t go there.

Remember, decisions have consequences. If you do not want to regret your life, then you must put yourself together.

When you focus on what is important to you, when you focus on what makes you happy, when you take action to change your life, to live your life, when you are okay the way you are, when you don’t care about what other people are doing, then you are on your way to greatness.

Remember that you are responsible for your life. Whatever you want, you can create. Don’t give in to regret. Don’t invite regret into your life. It is a waste of time. It gets us nowhere.

Regret gets us nowhere. Regret means no life. Happiness means life. And love means life.

Choose a real life, not a life of regret.