Tag: Achievement

4 Easy Ways To Set Realistic Goals

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Markus Winkler

“Whatever your goal is you will never succeed unless you let go of your fears and fly.”- Sir Richard Branson

“Everyone needs something to aim for. You can call it a challenge, or you call it a goal. It is what makes human.”- Sir Richard Branson

What is your goal? What is that one thing that you can’t stop thinking about? If you haven’t figured it out, you can start now.

Why do you need a goal? Why is it important to have one? It is important to set realistic goals. Goals motivate us to get up in the morning. They keep us going. They keep us trying. They keep us grounded. If you do not have one or two, it is never too late to start. You can even start right now.

When you have a goal, it is easier to figure out where you are going, what you want for yourself, and how you are going to get it. When you have a realistic goal for yourself, it is easier to get from where you are now to where you want to be. Because it gives you direction. It shows you where to go, what to avoid, and what to focus on. If you want to be successful, you need one. If you really mean it, let us start right now!

It must be what you want to achieve for yourself

Do not set goals that other people want you to pursue. Even if you achieve them, you are not going to be happy with yourself. Why is that? Because you haven’t satisfied your soul. Do not do what you hate to do. Because you are going to give it up when the going gets really tough. Do not put your time into something you do not like. Do not put your time into something that doesn’t motivate you, that doesn’t make you happy. Look, if something is not making you happy, there is no point in doing it. Life is too short. So why waste it on something that is making your life miserable? Why?

It must be challenging

If you want your goal to make sense, it must be challenging but not impossible to achieve. If you set an impossible goal for yourself, when it gets really tough, you will give up. Do not make it too difficult for yoursself. Because if your goal is too difficult to reach, you won’t succeed. You will fail. If you do not want to fail, if you want to achieve your goal, make it attainable. Make it realistic. Make it your own goal. Because if your goal is not yours, you won’t succeed. You will fail. If you do not want to fail, you must make sure that it is what you really want for yourself.

It must mean something to you

If your goal doesn’t mean anythng to you, there is no point in pursuing it. For your goal to make sense to you, it must be special to you. It must be something that you really want to get for yourself. It must be something that keeps you going. If not, it doesn’t worth your time. According to Rick Hansen and Dr. Joan Laub, “A goal has personal meaning if it matters to you, if it has personal significance.” If what you are pursuing doesn’t mean anything to you, you must stop it. If not, you are just wasting your time. And even if you succeed, it won’t make you happy.

It must be specific

When it comes to achieving your goal, you must be specific about it. Do not be a generalist. It must be specific. When it comes to making your goal specific, Rick Hansen and Dr. Joan Laub write, “Making your goal specific and definable is important because it allows you to measure, monitor and evaluate your progress.” They are right. Because the only way to know whether you are making progress or not is to check what you are getting. If you are not getting the right results, then you are not making any progress. To fix that, you must ask yourself if this goal is really what you want for yourself.

You must commit yourself to your goal

This is why your goal has to mean something to you. Because you cannot commit fully to something that doesn’t mean anything to you. It is easier to set a goal than to commit to it. And it takes commitment to make things happen. When you commit to your goal, you will do whatever it takes to make it happen. When you commit to something really special to you, nothing can stop you from making it happen. Will you commit to making your dreams come true?

8 Simple Ways To Forgive Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tara Winstead

Forgiveness is not about other people. Forgiveness is about you. It is the way forward. No matter what people have done to you, forgive them. It is a process. It is not an overnight thing. It is not an overnight event. It takes time to forgive. Do not rush yourself. Just take your time to prepare yourself. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is better for you, for your health, for your life. So if you want to do it, now is the right time to do it.

You can. You will. And you must forgive. Here is how to do it properly:

Change what you believe about yourself

“I change my story by changing what I believe about myself.“- Don Miquel Ruiz

Forgiveness starts with you. It is for you. So to really forgive yourself, to really forgive others, you must first change what you believe about yourself. If you cannot change what you believe about yourself, you cannot forgive yourself.

Learn from your mistakes

Do not let your past mistakes take over your life. It is normal to make mistakes. You cannot grow without them. A mistake is a sign of growth. If you make mistakes, do not beat yourself up. Just learn from them. In the words of Anthony Robbins, “Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” That is why you should make more mistakes. Because learning is not about trying to be perfect, but to get better at what you do.

Value yourself

Until you value yourself, you won’t value your life. And do not expect other people to value you if you cannot value yourself, if you cannot respect yourself. M. Scott Peck once said, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time.” Why is that? Because your life is time. And time is your life. Remember, if you value your life, you won’t waste your time. No matter what, do not let anyone put you down. You must surround yourself with great people. To do that, you must first value yourself. You must believe in yourself. If not, you can’t do it.

Thank God for all He has done for you

According to Mary Manin Morrissey, “Thank you, God. I may not have reached my dream, but I am grateful for that which I do possess.” Yes, to get more in life, you must first appreciate what you have. You must focus on what God has given to you, not what you do not have. When you appreciate what you have, you will have more to be grateful for.

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy…”

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love, and do what you will.”- Dan Millman

Remember that the essence of life is to be happy. And it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. No matter what is going on in your life, do not forget to make yourself happy.

Be there for yourself

Dr Phil says, “You’re only lonely if you’re not there for you.” People are lonely because they are not there for themselves. Do not do that to yourself. Do not let the fear of other people’s opinions stop you from being there for yourself. Because if you do not have the courage to be there for yourself, no one is going to be there for you.

Surround yourself with great people

To forgive yourself, you must surround yourself with great people. Who are they? Why are they different? They are for you, not against you. They are for your dreams, not against your dreams. When you are with great people, you can do what you will. According to Og Mandino, ” Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” So let me ask you. Who are the people around you?

“Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.”

Focus on what you are doing. Others are doing their own things. Don’t worry about what others are getting, what others are doing, or where they are going. That is not your business. What you are doing is your business, is your responsibility, not what others are doing. Focus on yourself. If you want to compete, compete with yourself. It is simple, but hard to do. When it comes to living your life, do what Norman Vincent Peale said. Norman Vincent Peale said, “Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.” If you have the courage to compete with yourself, you will have the courage to live a great life. Because it takes courage to live a great life.