Month: January 2022

6 Ways To Stay True To Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by cottonbro

No matter what is going on in your life, you must stay true to yourself. Even if people don’t believe in you, you must believe in yourself. Even if people don’t believe in your dreams, you must believe in your dreams. You must do whatever you can to connect with yourself. Why is that? Because, according to Pearl Bailey, “You never find yourself until you face the truth.” You will never find your true self until you connect with your real self.

If you really want to stay true to yourself, why not try these strategies:

You must understand who you are

There is nothing you cannot achieve in life if you are true to yourself. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to cheat yourself. Do not cheat your life. Even if no one is watching you, but you are watching yourself. According to Soren Kierkegaard, “Not until a person has inwardly understood himself and then sees the course he is to take does his life gain peace and meaning.” If you do not understand yourself, you really can’t pursue your purpose in life.

You must NOT deceive yourself

“Let people judge me as they please- I can deceive them, but I cannot deceive myself.”– Leo Tolstoy

You can deceive other people, but you can’t deceive yourself. No matter what you are going through in your life, you must not cheat yourself. Be true to yourself. You are where you are for a reason. Whether people like where you are or not, don’t worry about it. Focus on where you are going. That is what matters. Charles Spurgeon once said, “Beware of no man more than of yourself; we carry our worst enemies within us.”

You must study your own heart

Follow your heart. If you want to know what is going on in your heart, you must study it. If you want to know what is going on around you, you must study your own heart. Because there is nothing you cannot change if you have the courage to change what goes into your mind. According to Charles Spurgeon, “If a person doesn’t study the human heart, he cannot be a wise person.” So if you want to stay true to yourself, you must study your own heart.

You must “follow the voice of your heart”

You can. You will. And you must “follow the voice of your heart.” It is not easy, but you can do it. It is important to follow what you know than what you don’t know. You know yourself. You know what you want. You know what you want for yourself. Then what are you still waiting for? If you want to grow, if you want to do well in your life, you must grow the courage to “follow the voice of your heart.” Wilhelm Reich said, “Follow the voice of your heart, even if it leads you off the path of timid souls. Do not become hard and embittered, even if life tortures you at times. There is only one thing that counts: to live one’s life well and happily.”

You must “see yourself as you really are”

“See yourself as you really are.“- Wilhelm Reich

To stay true to yourself is to have the courage to be comfortable with yourself. Do not fear yourself. You are a great person. No matter where you are in your life, you are there for a reason. Do not rush. Your time is coming. If you want to achieve success, you must have the courage to look at yourself. You must have the courage to love yourself. You must have the courage to live your life.

5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Maksim Goncharenok

If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”