Tag: Worry

What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Want

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Photo by Anete Lusina

You cannot separate failure from success. Life is not about success; it is about learning from your failures. Do not reduce your mind. Because if you don’t try something new, you are not going to grow. When you do your work, you must not be afraid of failure. Failure is part of growth. Look, when you are trying to get things done, when you are trying to learn something new, or trying to become the true you, you are not going to get it right the first time. Whether you get it right or wrong, do not let the fear of failure stop you from living your life. When you fail, celebrate it, learn from it. Do not worry about failure, worry about not doing anything to change your situation. You matter. Your situation matters. Your life matters. Do not delegate your life. Do not be too hard on yourself when you fail. It is not your fault. You are just trying to change yourself. But you must be brave to conquer your fears. Be brave when you fail. It is going to happen. You cannot stop it. The only way you can stop yourself from failing is to stop living. If you don’t get it right the first time, do it again. When it comes to failure, you can always do it again. But don’t make it a habit. Because failure is not your name.

How To Use Fear As The Friend It Is

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Inspirational Quotes, Motivational Quotes, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Photo by Marcelo Moreira

Fear is your friend. If you want to learn from fear, make fear your friend. Do not make fear your enemy. Because we don’t like our enemies. We hate them. We don’t want to associate ourselves with them. But if you really want to walk past your fears, you must embrace them.

Why is that? Because the road to your dreams is wide open. But you can close it yourself if you don’t have the courage to face your fears. Remember, my friend, to conquer something, you must face it. To eliminate something, you must take action. You cannot conquer your fears by running from them. Because the more you run from them, the more they conquer you. Instead of running from your fears, make them as the friend they are. According to Peter McWilliams, “To use fear as the friend it is, we must retrain and reprogram ourselves... we must persistently and convincingly tell ourselves that the fear is here- with its gift of energy and heightened awareness- so we can do our best and learn the most in the new situation.”

Fear is not new. So why worry yourself about it? Don’t worry yourself about it. Live your life. Don’t let fear stop you from living your life. Don’t let fear stop you from chasing your dreams. Whether small or big, chase it. Only fear can stop you from chasing your dreams. Don’t let it happen. Instead, let fear spring you to your next level, to your next opportunity. It takes courage to do that. You have it. You can do it. Do not look back. Always look forward. Do not let past failures stop you from trying new things. Fear is there, but don’t give in to it. If you do, you will fail. But if you don’t, you will pass.