Tag: Works

What Will Change Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development

‘There is no greater illusion than

thinking the accomplishment of

some goal will change your life.

What will change your life is who

you become in the process of going for it.’- Brad Stulberg

Life is more than just one accomplishment. Life is more than what you are doing. It is more than what you do not yet have.

Life is about getting better every day. It is about getting outside of our comfort zone. It is about doing what matters. Because doing what matters is what life is about.

‘If what you are doing doesn’t make you happy, then it is not worth doing. If the people in your life are not there to support your growth, then they shouldn’t be there.’

Results don’t change lives. Lessons change lives. Whatever it is that you are doing, whether it is easy or not, whether you like it or not, pay attention to it.

Pay attention to what works. Pay attention to what is going on within you. Pay attention to what you are becoming. Because what you are becoming, your growth, your character development, is much more important than the results.

If you don’t focus on the process, the results don’t matter. But if you are brave enough to enjoy the process, to live the journey, other things will take care of themselves.

How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Rene Terp on Pexels.com

‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?