Understanding Is A Two-Way Street. Here Is Why

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Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, “Understanding is a two-way street.” What does this quote mean to you? To me, it means understanding is knowing, not judging. If you want to know people, don’t judge them, know them. If you want to know yourself better, don’t judge yourself, know yourself.

You find it difficult to even know who you are because you never stop judging yourself. If you want to help yourself, your life, your family, stop judging yourself and start celebrating who you are. You can judge yourself all you want. But one thing will not change: “Who you are.”

Stay away from judging people. Stay away from judging yourself. Because judgement prevents you from knowing people. It doesn’t tell you the whole story about them. Before you judge people, try to understand them. Try to understand where they have been, where they are, why they do what they do, and where they are going. People have different stories. Our stories are not the same. If you want to hear people’s stories, listen to them.

Understanding brings peace and harmony.”

You cannot do that without understanding yourself. The real understanding starts with you. It starts at home. Greatness begins at home. Understanding brings people together. And judgement separates people. If you want to know people, understand them. Do not judge them. Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” If you want to love people, understand them. If you want to love yourself, understand yourself. You cannot love yourself if you don’t understand who you really are. Love connects. Judgement separates. Love heals. Judgement kills. If you want to grow your life, it starts with understanding what you want out of life. It starts with understanding your values. It starts with understanding your emotions. And it starts with understanding your life.

If you want to know others, understand yourself. You can do it. But it will take time.

Breaking Free From People-Pleasing Mentality

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We please people to make them happy, to fit in, or to cover our insecurities. You must stop it. Love yourself the way you are. You are good enough. Don’t crave for love, give yourself love. Because you can’t make people like you. If they don’t like you, there is nothing you can do about it. Forget about their love. Your love for yourself is enough to make you happy for the rest of your life.

No one is perfect. No one is better than you.And you are not better than anyone. That is good enough. Don’t give up your values because you want people to like you. Don’t do it. According to Ryan Holiday, “We can seek progress without being perfectionists and we can be pragmatic without being unprincipled.” In other words, don’t give up your values just because you want to make people happy.

The more you please people, the more you harm yourself. You will never be happy with yourself. To stop people from manipulating you, you must believe in yourself. You must never be afraid to say NO to them. If you want to live your best life, you MUST be in charge of your life. The choice is yours.

I am breaking free from my people-pleasing mentality

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“If you want to live your best life, you must be in charge of your life.”