Happiness is not the way to self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is the ONLY way to true happiness. There is no other way to say it. You cannot be in a happy state if you don’t acceptance yourself.
If you don’t accept yourself, there is nothing that can make you really happy. Your big bank account won’t do it, your fancy degrees won’t do it, your fine car won’t do it, spending time with your friends won’t do it, drinking and partying all night long won’t do it. The only way to true happiness is when you have the courage to accept yourself, regardless of ALL your weaknesses, your financial records, where you live, or where you work.
Regardless of how you look, where you work, or where you live, ALWAYS accept yourself. Believe in yourself. Why is it necessary to accept yourself?
Because if you are not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with other people. You will be in an unhappiness state for the rest of your life. You will not be happy with your job, with your spouse, with your pet, with your nice home in Florida (if you have one there). In order to enjoy your possessions, you must first accept yourself for who you are, not for what people want you to be. There is only ONE you on earth. You can ONLY be your REAL self. And that real self is who you should be if you are to enjoy your life.
To conclude with Dr. Robert Holden’s quote: “Nothing can make up for a lack of self-acceptance.” Accept yourself, and you will find real happiness.
Success is a process. It is not a final stop. If you want to really be successful, you must do the right things. Successful people are successful because they do what others are not willing to do, and they don’t do what others do.
“You can do anything if you believe you can do it. You can’t do anything if you believe you can’t do anything.”
If you want more beautiful things in life, do
things in beautiful ways. You must give beautiful things to people, and people
will give beautiful things back to you.
Here are six things that successful people DON’T do:
They don’t waste time.
Successful people don’t waste their time. They value their time. They do the right and the most important things first. They don’t waste their time living in the past. They don’t waste their time living in the future. They waste their time living in the moment.
“All that really belongs to us is time; even he who has nothing else has that.”- Baltasar Gracian
They
don’t try to change what they cannot change.
Successful people know what they can change, and
they change it. Successful people know what they cannot change, and they don’t
even try to change it. If you try to change what you cannot change, you are
just wasting your time.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it we die, lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.”- Natalie Goldberg, zen practitioner
They
don’t fear success.
Successful people don’t fear success. They embrace
it. They welcome it. They prepare for it. They are successful in their minds
before they meet success. They know that success comes with discipline, with
responsibility, with focus, and with integrity. They believe in themselves that
they can succeed.
“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.”- Robert Collier
They
don’t fear failure.
Successful people don’t fear failure. They embrace
failure. They know that failure is part of the game of life. When they fail at
something, they just keep moving. They don’t blame anyone for their mistakes.
They take responsibility for what happened to them.
“I have not failed I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”– Thomas Edison
They
don’t doubt themselves.
Successful people don’t doubt themselves. They
believe they can do anything. They believe that nothing is impossible in life.
They don’t doubt themselves. Successful people are scared, but they don’t allow
fear to stop them from achieving their dreams.
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own power you cannot be successful or happy.”– Norman Vincent Pearle
They
don’t search for happiness.
Successful people don’t search for happiness. They
give happiness. They know that when you give happiness to people, you will be
happy. For that reason, they always try to make people happy. If you want to be
happy, make people happy. Add happiness to people’s lives, and they will add
happiness to your life.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”- Albert Camus
