One Important Way To Be Your Real Self

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Why is it important to be our real selves? Why can’t we just keep ‘faking it till we make it?’

Great questions! It is impossible to live a great life without first knowing who you are, what is important to you, and what makes you happy. If you don’t know your true self, then you are not living your own life. You are faking it till you make it. When will you come out of your closet?

The only life you have is YOURS, not mine. Euripides said, “There is just one life for each of us: our own.” Until you start to live your own life, you are not really living your own life, you are living other people’s lives. Do you want to live like that? I hope not.

It is important to live your OWN life. When you live your own life, you will have the chance to focus on yourself- your skills, your talents, your relationships, your personal and professional development, your self- discovery. But if you focus on other people’s lives, you are not living your own life to the fullest. You are wasting your time on earth.

The only way to be your real self, your true self, is to be ORIGINAL. You cannot be yourself when you imitate people. Imitation is not real. It is a photocopy. To accomplish great things in life, you have to be yourself. If not, your self-esteem will suffer. Herman Melville said, “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” It is better to fail being yourself than to succeed being another person. If you succeed being another person, you have not succeeded. But if you succeed being yourself, you have succeeded.

Be yourself, don’t imitate anyone, and you will succeed.


A Wishful Thinker

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A wishful thinker is only a dreamer. If you want to succeed in life, you must support your wishful thinking with actions. You cannot wish your way to success. You can ONLY work your way to success.

Everything in life has a price. If you want it, you must first pay the price. You must first do the work required before you can get it. If not, it is just a wish. You don’t wish yourself to success. You work yourself to success. In other words, you must do the work to succeed. Success does not come from wishing, it comes from doing the hard work that no one wants to do.

If you want to succeed, if you want to be happy, don’t wish, do the work. Don’t wait for luck. Luck happens to people who are prepared to succeed. The prepared people are the lucky ones in their chosen disciplines.

You will succeed if you just stop wishing and start doing. You will succeed if you can support your wish with actions. You will succeed if you understand that you cannot be successful through wishful thinking. What you sow is what you will reap. What you plant is what you will harvest.

Farmers don’t wish, they plant. Doers don’t wish, they do. Instead of wishing, think of what you want, plan, take action, and follow through. is not responsible for how you use this article.