The Power Of Suffering

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According to Anthony Robbins, ‘Is there an area of your life in which you feel unnecessary pain?

Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?

How could you change your focus and turn a seemingly painful event into a pleasurable opportunity to learn, to grow, or help others?

What are some of your pain-avoiding and pleasure-inducing patterns?

What are some of the more positive ways in which you could move away from pain and toward pleasure?’

Whether you want to face the above questions or not, you cannot live your life without pain. It is part of who we are. No one can achieve greatness without first going through pain.

If you want to change your life, you must be comfortable with discomfort. If you want to grow, you must ‘get comfortable with uncertainty’. Without it, you are playing! You are not going anywhere.

If you do not want to get comfortable with stress, then you are not going to be able to reach your greater heights.

If you want to be successful, you must face your pain. Pain is the way to your next level. It is pain before success. It is pain before growth. It is pain before self-discovery.

In her book Why You Should Empower Yourself: How to Make Lemonade when Life Gives You Lemons, Xenia Tchoumi writes, ‘Pain is a powerful transformative force for growth. You can’t become a better person or achieve your goals without going through a certain amount of discomfort and difficulty. No one has ever made it in life without encouraging some hurdles and failures.’ The author is right.

If you want to improve your life, you must embrace uncertainty. Do not ignore it. Do not run away from difficult things. The more you do, the better for you.

When you are faced with something that you have not done before, give it a shot. When you accept the pain as part of your own growth package, you will be able to cope with it. Don’t throw away an opportunity to grow.

If you want to grow your life, to expand your world, you must embrace discomfort. The question is, ‘Do you really know how to suffer?’

As always, you are more, not less!

What You Should Know About Self-Doubt

Self-doubt is what happens when you know who you are, but don’t trust who you are. To trust yourself, you must live your truth.’- Katie Horwitch

Self-doubt is a dream-killer. It is not good for you. It is not good for us because, according to Katie, ‘Self-doubt makes us believe our successes depend on a very specific set of factors and bullet points lining up just like so, but success is not a list to be crossed off.’

Self-doubt is a sign we’re losing our footing in who we are. We begin to believe we don’t have any power, when in fact, we have all the power. We’ve just forgotten.’

Self-doubt without boundaries can reshape the core of who you are.’ But if you listen to your self-doubt, you can take advantage of it. Because you can set yourself free if you know how to use it to your own advantage.

If you have the gut to listen to what you are hearing from within, ‘self-doubt is change and growth knocking at your door, a feeling that’s meant to be acknowledged and felt through.’

If you really want to be your Self, ‘you must live your truth. And to live your truth means trusting it.’ The question is, ‘Do you trust your truth?’

As always, you are more, not less!

Further Reading:

Katie Horwitch (2023). Want Yourself: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth the Strength in Who You Were All Along