Tag: Probability

‘Hard work yields great results, even when there’s little evidence of it.’

‘You get what you work for.’

‘You just need to know what you’re looking for.’

‘Options are great! But infinite options can be paralyzing.’

‘Wisdom from those you trust can lead you in the right direction. But the path you choose for yourself will take you the farthest.’

‘Of all heroic pursuits large or small, there may be none greater than a life well loved.’

‘When you focus only on status, you end up with the status quo.’

‘You can’t sub in something artificial without compromising the integrity of the whole deal!’

‘Authenticity often means sticking with your gut in the midst of difference or even indifference. … Authenticity is going to look completely different for you than it does for me. … Authenticity doesn’t mean resisting change.’

‘If you don’t do the ‘you’ part right, it’s whole lot harder to do the ‘we’ part right.’

‘A network built on imitation won’t have the strength to withstand all the pressures and complications life will throw at you.’

‘Your network is only as authentic as the people within it.’ And that start with you. If you’re authentic, then, at best, the network you build will be inauthentic too. At worst, it can lead you to doubt who you really are.’

‘We need to surround ourselves with people who are genuine. I’d rather have one true, authentic person on speed dial than a thousand yes-people.’

‘It takes courage and empathy to disagree respectfully, but a willingness to speak truth, even if wounding, can be a taletell sign of authenticity.’

‘If you don’t value the qualities and traits you bring to the table, you’ll be hard pressed to find the courage and confidence to trust or lead those around you.’

‘People who are willing to negotiate everything don’t stand for anything. By living to please everyone else, they lose sight of who they are. People who make authenticity nonnegotiable, on the other hand, erase the space between who they are and where they want to be.’

‘Our culture teaches us that conformity is your highest probability of success. Or, at the very best, the path of least resistance.’

‘You have got to draw your own map. The only person who can help you figure out how to live life according to your own terms is you.’

‘Whatever you’re doing, make sure it lights a fire in you and that you were the one who struck the match.’

‘The Siren of security sings a pretty sweet songs, but if you want to live an extraordinary life, there is nothing like the beat of your own drum.’

‘You only get so much time, so many heartbeats. How are you going to use it- fantasizing about what life might be like in some alternate universe or discovering the beauty of the one you live in now?’

‘You know what’s happening while you’re fantasizing about another life? You’re wasting the one you’ve got.’

‘Someone you spend twenty minutes with might have more of an impact on you than a person you’ve known your whole life.’

‘When life sends you someone who rips you out of your routine, pay attention!’

‘If we are going to belong to one another again, we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortably kind.’

‘Kindness never returns void.’

‘Kindness asks us to look each other in the eye and see one another as valuable human beings. This begins at home, in our own networks and communities, with a steadfast belief that we are made better when we believe the best about each other.’

‘Real impact happens when we give something of ourselves.’

‘If we are going to lead with love, we have to love our fellow man in the fullness of who they are, not just the parts that remind us of ourselves.’

‘Without fresh vantage points and opposing ideas, there’s no opportunity to be strengthened. No change. No growth. No Ideas.’

‘A dynamic network will never be built on likeness.’

‘Learn to let people in. You’ll be better for it.’

‘We can widen our lenses. We can remind ourselves that people are so much more than who they are in relation to us.’

‘We need to widen our view of one another in order to take in the whole picture.’

‘Except people are not interruptions to your life. They are life.’

‘There are so many forces out there pushing against you; it’s real work to act with intention. But the stakes are too high not to.’

‘Being genuinely present is a kind of caretaking. Presence- real, genuine, uninterrupted presence- is one of the most valuable gifts we can offer another person.’

‘We are pretty good at accepting that we ourselves are going to grow and change, but where we slip up is granting the same favor to others.’

‘Sometimes honoring someone looks like letting go.’

‘Hold onto each other but don’t hold each other back.’

‘When you bet on someone in your network, don’t lose sight of what it is you’re really rooting for. Cause it’s not their idea. It’s them.’

‘Fear sux! Trust your instincts plus intuition to guide you toward the risks worth taking.’

‘Smart’ might come from watching plus studying but wisdom comes from doing, failing, plust trying again.’

‘Life opens up when you bring your experience, but not your expectations, to all that you do. Without all those expectations telling you what you should see, you can take in what is actually there, see it with your eyes, and process it with your own brain.’

Source

Chip Gaines (2021). No Pain, No Gaines: The Good Stuff Doesn’t Come Easy