How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

What Are You Struggling With?

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You are not alone. Whatever it is that you are going through, do not lose your heart. Do not forget who you are. Do not tear yourself down. It is going to be alright.

No matter how tough, it is not going to be here forever. It will go away.

Struggling is not a crime. It is not going to destroy you. It is going to make you stronger. It is going to make you smarter. It is going to make you calmer.

Do not lose your heart. Do not blame other people for what you are going through in your life.

Because you do not know what they are going through. They are going through things. But they are not like yours.

According to Ray Dalio, ‘… we all struggle with different things at different times in our lives….’ He is right. No one is free.

Whatever it is that is keeping you up at night, just know that it is not going to be here forever.

All you need to do is to take care of yourself.

When you take care of yourself, when you are doing well, when you are living well, when you are thinking well,

when you are loving well, other things will follow.