Tag: Love

Are You Comfortable With Yourself?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It is okay to be by yourself. It is okay to live your own life in your way. If you are not comfortable living your life, if you are not comfortable being yourself, if you are not comfortable loving yourself, what are you doing to yourself?

“We live together, we act on, and react to, one another; but always and in all circumstances we are by ourselves.”– Aldous Huxley

Stop preparing to live your life. Your life is unique. You must be comfortable living it. Don’t apologize for living your life in your own way. Don’t! If you have been waiting for people to love you before you love yourself, you are not helping your life. You are hurting your life, your growth. Live your life. Stop waiting to live. You are not going to be here forever. You are going to die one day. Why not make your life worth living? Why not stop waiting for who is not waiting for you? Whether you are afraid to live your life or not, you are responsible for your own life. You are responsible for everything concerning you. Don’t expect too much from people. Don’t expect what you cannot give yourself from anyone. Do it for you.

If you want happiness from other people, give happiness to yourself. If you want love from other people, give love to yourself. Why? Because what you can’t do for yourself, no one can do it for you. It is your life.

Understanding Is A Two-Way Street. Here Is Why

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, “Understanding is a two-way street.” What does this quote mean to you? To me, it means understanding is knowing, not judging. If you want to know people, don’t judge them, know them. If you want to know yourself better, don’t judge yourself, know yourself.

You find it difficult to even know who you are because you never stop judging yourself. If you want to help yourself, your life, your family, stop judging yourself and start celebrating who you are. You can judge yourself all you want. But one thing will not change: “Who you are.”

Stay away from judging people. Stay away from judging yourself. Because judgement prevents you from knowing people. It doesn’t tell you the whole story about them. Before you judge people, try to understand them. Try to understand where they have been, where they are, why they do what they do, and where they are going. People have different stories. Our stories are not the same. If you want to hear people’s stories, listen to them.

“Understanding brings peace and harmony.”

You cannot do that without understanding yourself. The real understanding starts with you. It starts at home. Greatness begins at home. Understanding brings people together. And judgement separates people. If you want to know people, understand them. Do not judge them. Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” If you want to love people, understand them. If you want to love yourself, understand yourself. You cannot love yourself if you don’t understand who you really are. Love connects. Judgement separates. Love heals. Judgement kills. If you want to grow your life, it starts with understanding what you want out of life. It starts with understanding your values. It starts with understanding your emotions. And it starts with understanding your life.

If you want to know others, understand yourself. You can do it. But it will take time.