Tag: honesty

This Is What Authenticity Means To Me

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Authenticity means more than just telling the truth. Because we know when we are not being honest with ourselves. We also know when we are human beings, when we are who we really are.

To me, being true to myself is everything. It means everything to me. It is simple. If I am not myself, then who am I? If I can’t live my life, then why am I here? If I can’t tell the truth, then my values are not my values.

To me, I am being true to myself when I am not afraid to raise my voice, when I am not afraid to represent what is right, when I am being honest with other people, when I am being honest with myself, when I have the courage to follow my heart, to listen to my inner self, when I can dig deeper into what makes me who I am today, when I can live my values, when I can work my values, when I can speak my values, when I believe in myself, and when I believe that the world is more than me.

I am being true to other people when I treat them as human beings, not as animals, when I pay attention to their stories, to their experiences. Why is that? Because I want to know them. I want to know where they are coming from. And I want to know how I can help them.

Because being true to others means you are there when they need you, not when you want something from them. That is manipulation.

When you are being authentic to yourself and to other people, the world wants to meet you.

To you, what does authenticity mean?

How To Get Other People To Trust You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Trust is everything. You can’t force other people to trust you. You can’t force your friends to trust you. You can’t force your spouse to trust you. You can’t force your coworkers to trust you. You can’t force your boss, your manager, to trust you.

You don’t demand trust from other people. You work for your trust. You earn it. Trust is what you get when you are true to yourself.

If you want people to trust you, don’t fight for your trust. Do not convince them to trust you. Be yourself.

Be yourself. Live your life. Do not lie to anyone. Do not even lie to yourself, even when no one is watching you.

Trust will come. People will trust you when you are a good person, you live with dignity, when you are true to yourself, when you love what you are doing, when you surround yourself with other trustworthy people.

And the best way to get people to trust you is to first trust yourself. If you do not trust yourself, no one is going to trust you.

You trust yourself when you do what you say you are going to do. People like that.

You trust yourself when you are not scared to tell people what they need to hear from you.

You trust yourself when your words and your actions are the same. They are not different.

You trust yourself when you do not take on things that you cannot do. You trust yourself when you know what you can do.

You trust yourself when you surround yourself with other trustworthy people. And you trust yourself when you live your life with integrity in every area of your life.

That is how you earn trust. Again, do not force people to trust you. Because trust is about your behavior.

It is about how you live your life. So if you want people to trust you, you must be true to yourself.

The question is, ‘Are you true to yourself?’