How To Change Your Identity

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Your real identity is not your passport. Your real identity is not your job. Your identity is not your bank account. Your real identity is not your fancy cars. It is not your gated-community.

So what is your real Identity? Your real identity, again, is not who the world says you are. It is not who other people say you are. It is not who your friends say you are. It is not who your boss says you are. It is not what anyone can just talk about. It is not what any success can do for you. Your identity, your real identity, is who you say you are. Your identity is your face in the world. Your identity is your uniqueness. Your identity is how you treat yourself. It is how you treat other people. It is how you live your life. It is how you do your work. Above all, it is what matters the most to you.

The problem with identity is that many people are just walking around with the wrong faces. They are living their double lives. They are in the wrong jobs. They are in the wrong relationships. They are doing the wrong things. Why? Because they are answering to the world, not to themselves. They are paying attention to what the world wants, not what their souls are crying for.

If that is you, wherever you are, you can do something about it. Yes, you can change your identity. You can change your life by changing your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions. You can. The queston is, ‘Will you?’

If you want your life to change today, then you have got to be real with yourself. Ask yourself, ‘Am I really who I say I am?’ If yes, you are great! If not, you must get to work. Don’t stay the same. Don’t listen to those who want you to stay the same. Don’t let fear keep you stuck. Start small. The people you admire today started small. Successful people are not perfect. But they started. You can do the same. Start as a little baby. And never stop doing it until you get what you want. Because life is going to test you. Failure will test you. People will test you. Disappointments will test you. And success will test you.

Life is going to throw things at you. You will face problems. You will face hurdles that are bigger than you. But don’t let those things stop you from living your real identity. Because if you do not have the courage to put yourself out there, to do what is difficult, to face your fears, to face your demons, your identity will stay the same. Your life will stay the same. But you can change your path today, right now. But how?

Remember, you can change your identity. You can choose you. You can learn more about yourself. You can ask real questions. You can learn to do things differently. You can learn to take actions, actions that can change your life. You can learn how to attract great people. You can learn to set your own gaols. And pursue them without any delay. You can learn to be who you are. Above all, to really change your identity, your thoughts must be in alignment with your values. If not, you are not living your life. You are living other people’s dreams.

If that is what you want for yourself, then that is okay. You don’t need to change anything. But if you want something different, then you must push forward.

How Authentic Leaders Build Great Organizations

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‘Authentic leaders are not ego driven, nor are they driven by power or money. They are more interested in learning, self-improvement, and helping others.’

‘Communicate directly with everyone in your organization and behave genuinely regardless of formal titles.’

‘Leaders who accurately size up external events and solve problems based on this assessment tend to be capable of greater achievements.’

‘Authentic leaders focus on results- setting both short-term and longer-term goals. They are not afraid of looking vulnerable and can own up to mistakes.’

‘Emotional self-awareness will enable you to lead with composure and a full understanding of your impact on others.’

‘Knowing your emotional triggers and reactions will enable you to use this emotional knowledge to effectively navigate through challenging or difficult situations.’

‘Acting arrogantly or not showing integrity can be the kiss of death in today’s world.’

‘Coaching means going out of your way o make sure people realize their full potential.’

‘Leading an organization when times are good and things are going well is not when one thinks of flexibility.’

Being emotionally intelligent means you’ll have the ability to successfully distinguish the emotions best suited to a particular situation from those associated with other parts of daily life and use those emotions to navigate the decision-making process.’

Source:

Steven J. Stein (2017). The EQ Leader: Instilling Passion, Creating Shared Goals, and Building Meaningful Organizations Through Emotional Intelligence