Tag: health

How To Turn Negative Messages Around

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It starts with your own mindset. If you believe you can do great things, you can do them. Do not doubt yourself. Because self-doubt is the beginning of failure.

In his book Making Hope Happen: Create the Future You Want for Yourself and Others, Shane J. Lopez writes, ‘… mindset influences every aspect of your life, from work to sports, from relationships to parenting. If you believe you can change and develop, you know you can move beyond your present limitations.’

To ‘move beyond your present limitations’, you must change your thoughts.

You can do great things. Do not doubt yourself. Negative messages are not good for you. They are not good for your life, for your health, and for your happiness.

Here is why. According to Dr. Shane J. Lopez, ‘Negative messages are no more ‘realistic’ than your highest goals, and they rob you of agency.’

‘Negative messages deplete you, sap your agency, and keep you stuck. Disputing these messages will help you reclaim your motivation for the goals that matter to you most.’

If you want to achieve greatness, you must first embrace yourself. You must stop telling yourself negative things. If you do not, remember, ‘negative messages … keep you stuck.’ The question is, ‘Do you want to be stuck?’

How To Take Charge Of Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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May Sarton said, “We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” We don’t do that. Instead, we are trying our best to make everybody around us happy. We want everybody to love us. We want to be the best in the room.

But while trying to make everybody happy, we are neglecting our own happiness. We are neglecting our own lives. stop it! Instead of trying to make everybody happy, which is not possible, why not take care of your own life first. Take care of your life so that you can take care of other people. It is not possible to give what you don’t have. Can you give what you don’t have? Can you make other people really happy? Can you make other people smile when you can’t smile? It is almost impossible.

Don’t try to do more than what you can really do. It is not good for your life. It is not good for your soul. Do what you are capable of doing. Because if you allow other people to take charge of your life, there is no way forward for you. Because the key to where you are going belongs to them.

It is not easy. Your life is your life. You must take care of it. Because if you don’t, no one will. Keep your life together. Don’t disrespect your life. Because your life is a sacred thing from God. According to Dan Rockwell, “You lose respect for yourself when you abdicate responsibility for yourself.”

Whether you like it or not, you are responsible for your life, for our actions. According to John Hagee, “If you don’t accept responsibility for your life, there is no hope. Why? Because change is not possible until you accept responsibility for yourself.” Don’t blame other people for your own actions. Don’t blame other people for your own thoughts.

You are responsible for the quality of your work, not your boss.. You are responsible for the quality of your thoughts, not your friends. You are responsible for your health, not your doctor. You are responsible for your development, not your government. You are responsible for what you eat, not your stomach. In life, we tend to get what we sow. So if you want to live a better life, you must be in charge of your life.