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Is Blaming Others For Our Actions A Way Forward Or Backward?

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Why do we blame people for our actions? Is it the right thing to do? What do we do to stop blaming people for our actions?

When we blame people for our actions, we are not helping ourselves. We are hurting ourselves. We are giving our strengths away. We are stopping ourselves from learning new things.

In his book The Four Virtues of a Leader, Eric Kaufmann writes, “When you blame, you assign authority to the environment and stop focusing on the power of creating and shaping circumstances.” You don’t focus on your learning process when you blame others for your actions.

When you blame, you are giving your power away. You don’t take responsibility when you blame others. You don’t learn from your mistakes when you blame others. You don’t grow when you blame others. You are not helping others when you blame them for your own actions.

When you blame, you are not empowering yourself. But when you take responsibility for your actions, you are empowering yourself.

Robert Kiyosaki says, “When people are lame, they love to blame.” No matter what you are going through, don’t blame anyone for it. Take responsibility for your own actions. If you blame, you will continue to make the same mistakes.

If you want to grow, if you want to transform your life, do not blame someone else for your actions. Don,t blame yourself. Don’t blame your teacher. Don’t blame your boss for your mess. Don’t blame your government for your financial condition. Don’t blame your coworkers for your mess. Always take responsibility for your actions.

It is hard to take responsibility for our actions. But when we do, we are better of than not taking full responsibility. When you make a mistake, instead of blaming yourself or others for it, take full responsibility for your mistake.

People who take responsibility for their actions are more successful than those who blame others for their actions. Why is that? Because they learn from their mistakes. You cannot move forward if you do not take full responsibility for your actions. In her book Emotional Fitness: Discovering our Natural Healing Power, Janice Berger writes, “Our life is transformed when we can stop blaming.”

If you want to expand your life, stop blaming.

Are you ready to stop blaming others for your actions?

Healing Is…

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What does healing mean to you? Does it mean pain to you? Does it mean suffering to you?

When something happen to us, we try to understand everything before we commit ourselves to healing. Wrong, Wrong, Wrong. Instead of trying to understand everything before you commit yourself to self-healing, accept what happened, and find the next way forward.

Things will always happen to us. There is no way we can live our lives without running into problems. Some we can control; others we cannot control.

Control what you can control. Forget what you cannot control, and move on. Make sure you learn your lessons.

Don’t try to control your healing. Let your healing take care of itself. If you try to control your healing, you are preventing your healing from taking place. Gary Hensel posted a quote on my Twitter, which reads, “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”

The problem we have with healing ourselves is that we try to control the healing process. If you try to control your healing, you are doing yourself more harm than good. Don’t try to control it.

When you are hurt,

  • Don’t try to control your own healing. You will not succeed in doing that. The more you try to control everything, the more you are harming yourself.
  • Accept the healing by not trying to be the master controller of your own healing
  • Have an open mind to your own healing.
  • Forgive yourself for what you are going through. Forgiveness is a two-way street.
  • Forgive others for what you are going through. When you forgive others, others will forgive you.
  • Don’t try to understand what happened to you. Accept what happened to you. Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from it, and keep going.

Healing is a process. It takes time to heal. Be patient. If you want to heal yourself, accept healing for yourself, and keep moving forward.