Tag: Happy

Four Things You Must Learn How To Do

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Life is not about us; it is about other people. It is about how we treat other people. We don’t live for ourselves; we live for others.

Herbert Spencer said, “No one can be perfectly free till all are free; no one can be perfectly moral till all are moral; no one can be perfectly happy till all are happy.” Before you take any action, it is important to consider how your action is going to affect other people. Because we are together. We love life. We want to help other people, not to hurt them.

Remember that no one is free until everyone is free. You can free other people. You can do that by lifting other people up, by bringing out the best in other people. To bring out the best in other people, to bring out the best in ourselves, according to Henry Van Dyke, we must learn: “To think without confusion clearly; to love his fellow-men sincerely; to act from honest motives purely; to trust in God and Heaven securely.” If you can do that, you will be able to lift yourself and others up. It is not going to be easy, but you can handle it.

How You See Yourself Is How Others Will See You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a positive person? Do you see yourself as a loser? Do you see yourself as a failure? Or do you see yourself as a powerful person?

You cannot control how other people see you. But you can control how you see yourself. It is important to believe in yourself. It is important to love yourself. It is important to live your life the way you want to live it. How you see yourself is necessary. Live your life. Don’t hide your life.

How you see yourself is important. Why is that? Because you can’t please everybody. You can’t make everybody happy. You can only make yourself happy. You do that by doing the things that really make you happy.

Eric Hoffer famously said, “It is not love of self but hatred of self which is at the root of the troubles that afflict our world. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves.” The message here is: How you treat yourself is exactly how other people will treat you. How you see yourself is exactly how other people will see you. If you want to other people to treat you with love, respect, you must first treat them with love and respect.