If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

Happy adult woman talking on phone and using laptop while chilling at home
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.

Improving The Moment

Active man riding skateboard on city bridge
Photo by Allan Mas

Living in the moment

Is the foundation for everything.

But you cannot improve the moment

If you don’t live in the moment.

And to improve the moment,

You must live in the moment,

Not in the past.

The past is gone.

It will never come back again.

You are not living there anymore.

You are living in the moment.

You job is to face your future, not your past.

Face your future without fear,

And with a positive mind.