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“The Future Is Open”

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tara Winstead

“The future is open.” The question is, Are you preparing for your future? What are you doing right now to make your tomorrow a better tomorrow? Are you reading the right books? Are you meeting the right people? Are you doing your best? Are you living your best life? If not, why are you not doing it? If yes, do not stop believing in yourself.

Look, tomorrow starts right now. Your future starts right now. Your life starts right now. Because every day is a new day. Whatever you have been through in your past is over. Today is a new day. You are a new you.

“You don’t need to know the future to be hopeful. You just need to embrace the concept that the unknowability of the future is the key, and that there are versions of that future which are brighter and fairer than this one. The future is open.”- Matt Haig, The Comfort Book

Whatever you are thinking right now is making your future for you. Whatever you are doing right now is making your future for you. It is preparing your bed for you. It is designing your life for you.

So, if you are not getting the right results, don’t continue. Take your time to evaluate your life, to evaluate what you are doing. Take your time to check the lives of the people around you. If they are getting it, then you can hang around them. But if they are not moving forward, if they are not getting anything done, then they are the wrong folks for you. You don’t need them.

Dr. Travis bradberry says, “You will never reach your peak until you surround yourself with the right people.” Let me ask you this question. Are you comfortable with the people around you? If you are not, then what are you doing about it? Remember, nothing change unless you do. So what is next?

6 Important Lessons From Rachel Hollis On How To Put Life Back Together

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Connor McMannus

As the old saying goes, “You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.” You can’t control life, but you can control your own life. Live your life. Do not destroy yourself just to make other people happy.

If you are not happy, it is because you are not brave enough to face your life. No matter what is going on out there, it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. If you can’t do it for you, who do you think is going to do it for you. If you are honest with yourself, the answer is you.

If you want to put your life together, here are some strategies, according to Rachel Hollis.

She says, “Don’t fear your weakness, fear drowning in despair for the rest of your time on earth because you were too afraid to confront your pain.” No matter what you are going through in your life, if you want to put your life together, do not “cover your pain to make other people more comfortable.”

She says, “If you want to move forward, be honest about what’s going on even if it’s only to yourself.” If you have the courage to be honest with yourself, that is good enough.

She says, “Stop trying to cover up your emotions, or, frankly, anything you don’t like about yourself or your feelings, with a new coat of paint. … But in order to do that, you’ve got to be real. You have to allow yourself to truly feel what you feel before you can feel what you’d like.” Allow yourself to be you, to express yourself. If you don’t express your God-given self, then what are you doing with it?

She says, “Have the courage to admit who you are, even if it’s only to yourself at first.” Have the courage to admit who you are to yourself, to your mnd, to your body, and to your soul. Why is that? To know others, you must first know yourself. If not, you are faking it. Do not fake your way through life. Live your way through life. Grow your way through life. Do not be scared to set boundaries for yourself. They work.

She says, “When one thing changes, everything changes, even if it takes you a bit to admit it and adjust.” When something changes in your life, you are no longer the same person. Change is important. See it as a blessing, not as a curse.

She says, “You are going to have to love yourself enough to seek help. You are going to have to love yourself enough to forgive yourself. You are going to have to love yourself enough to believe that you can be better, that you will be better, next time. You are also going to have to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone who weaponizes your guilt and uses it against you.” You have the power to do whatever you want. But to do that, you have got to be real with yourself.

Remember, according to Rachel Hollis, “You are an ever-evolving being who will continue to change over time.”