Tag: Choice

You Can Make Yourself Happy, According To Psychology

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Workplace Learning Report
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“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”– Richard Bach

Does your happiness depend on other people’s lives? Does your happiness depend on your job? Does your happiness depend on your pocket (money)?

If your happiness depends on those things, you do have a problem. Nothing can make you happy but yourself. No one can make you happy. No one can bring you happiness but yourself. If you really care about your happiness, focus on your purpose in life. Purpose brings happiness.

You can’t buy happiness, but meaningful things can make you happy. If you want to make yourself happy, I mean really happy, you must focus on doing meaningful things. Good things can make you happy, not people. Don’t expect happiness from anyone. No one can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy. Don’t go around chasing happiness. All you need to do is look within yourself. Happiness is in your mind. If you want to make yourself happy, don’t allow negative thoughts to take charge of your life.

According to Franz Schubert, “You believe happiness to be derived from the place in which once you have been happy, but in truth it is centered in ourselves.” Your happiness is centered in yourself. Your happiness is your choice. You can make yourself happy. You can make yourself happy by changing the relationship you have with yourself. When it comes to happiness, how you see yourself matters. It matters more than anything else. When you change how you see yourself, your life will change. Your personality will change. Your future will change. Above all, your self-esteem will go up.

You can make yourself happy if you have the courage to love yourself. Love is the real happiness. Why? Yes, because if you don’t love yourself, you can’t make yourself happy. Everything starts with love. Love is in charge of our lives. When you are in love with yourself, your life will reflect it. Sigmund Freud famously said, “We must begin to love in order not to fall ill.” So, if you want to make yourself happy, make yourself happy. But don’t expect to be happy every day. It is not going to happen. You must accept what you have. Everything is not going to go your way. You must be happy with what you have, where you are, and move on with your life.

Are you ready to make yourself happy?

Your Life Is A Reflection Of Many Choices You Have Made

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Steve Maraboli writes, “Your life is a reflection of many choices you have made at the innumerable amount of choice-points you’ve crossed.” Life is about choices. Don’t worry about the bad choices you have made in the past. You can’t change the past, but you can change your future. You can change your future by paying attention to what you are doing right now. What you are doing right now is shaping your future.

You can change your life today. Don’t let your bad choices hold you back. Don’t let your past mistakes hold you back. If you want to change your life, you must change yourself. You can change your life by taking advantage of the opportunities around you. “Don’t sleepwalk through your life”. If you delay yourself, the opportunity will not be there for you. If you want to catch it, you must wake up. You must not sleepwalk through life.

Once you have made up your mind to pursue something, don’t think too much about it. Because if you spend your entire life thinking about it, you will cripple yourself. Once you know what you want for yourself, for your life, for your family, then make your decision and then do it. Don’t wait. Don’t wait for the perfect time to do something. There is no such thing as a perfect time. If you want to do something, if you really mean it, do it today.

If you want to get something done in your life, you have got to do it yourself. You have got to follow your path. You have got to do your own thing. Allen Ginsberg said, “Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” If you wait for someone else to do it for you, you are going to wait forever. Make up your mind for yourself. And you will get what you want.