Joe Burton On Creating Mindful Leaders

‘Multi-tasking feeds stress.’

‘If you regularly drink wine to manage your stress, that’s not mindfulness. Sometimes, that’s called alcoholism.’

‘When the subject comes to the sharing economy, you have to play to win. Bringing teams together regularly can help surface employee concerns in a transparent way.’

‘You can tell a lot about a person by what they reveal in their life stories. Uncover common ground by asking your colleagues interesting questions.’

‘If you’re looking to ‘crush it,’ ‘kill it,’ ‘not freak out,’ and so on, you should feel good in doing what’s right for you.’

‘We’re actually many ways at different points in our day, let alone in our lives. When we’re open to others occurring to us as jerks in one moment but as smart, funny, clever, or charming in other moments, then we actually give those moments a chance to appear. We give ourselves the chance to enjoy the many dozens of ways that others can occur, if we’re open to it.’

‘Doing good is good for you.’

‘Sitting is the new smoking. Rather than destroy your health or turn into a keyboard hunchback, set your smart watch or a timer to get up and move at least once every hour.’

‘Getting stuck in a culture of us versus them is all too easy. Real discourse requires patience, openness, and curiosity. Is your business having an impact on society or simply being impacted.’

‘People don’t leave jobs; they leave managers. When the subject comes to your culture, start with your own wellbeing as a leader and you’ll have a better chance of improving the inner workings and emotional culture of your team and organization.’

‘Talk yourself up. A ‘growth mindset’ relies on self-talk that is positive and encouraging. Practice becoming aware of the messages you give yourself when you are feeling stuck or challenged.’

‘Leaders spend countless hours putting complex measurement and data feedback loops in place. How much time do you spend creating data checkpoints for yourself? What’s your personal optimization plan?’

‘Giving your brain time to recover and repair is necessary for your mental and emotional wellbeing, performance, relationships, and sleep. Being a leader has to start with self-care.’

‘Mindfulness … isn’t about 5 to 10 minutes of meditation practice each day. It’s about a way of life. It’s about changing the negative and unhealthy routines that create the disease states and career states that erode your happiness and performance that can take years off your life. It’s about changing the conversation with your inner critics-that pushy board of directors in your mind.’

‘Learning to catch yourself when you’re distracted and coming back to a point of focus may be the single most important life skill for modern living.’

‘Life can be hard. Don’t take it all too seriously or too personally. The truth is, you’re perfect the way you are. And you could be a little better.’

Source

Joe Burton (2018). Creating Mindful Leaders: How to Power Down, Power Up, and Power Forward

Helen Tupper And Sarah Ellis On How To Coach Yourself

‘Your ability to coach yourself isn’t determined by the level you’ve reached in your career, or how many years of experience you have. What matters much more is the time and effort you dedicate to continually improving your skills.’

Coaching yourself starts with managing your mindset.’

Self-supporting statements are positive reminders from your inner coach on what you can achieve.’

‘Scuba diving is how you discover the hidden treasure. Diving below the surface is when we uncover new insights about ourselves.’

Positive prompts are how we reframe thinking traps in a way that is useful to support our coaching.’

Coaching yourself is about identifying and committing to the actions that are most relevant and useful for you, and only you will know what they are.’

‘A useful way to keep your goal front of mind is to make it impossible to ignore.’

‘Limiting lenses affect our perception of the world around us. They distort reality and lead to negative thoughts about what we can and can’t do.’

‘When you change from limiting to a limitless lens you can start to change the beliefs you hold about yourself.’

‘When you’re out of your depth, remember you know how to swim.’

‘Learning something new reminds us that we have the ability to start from scratch. Being a beginner encourages us to become comfortable with not knowing all the answers, and we offen spot new ways to our strengths too.’

‘Successful givers are not selfless, they recognize the importance of boundaries and are specific about what they can give.’

Switching positions allow you to see things from your manager’s perspective.’

‘Difference is valuable because it leads to creative outcomes and helps to solve problems. It also causes friction when people think and bahave in a way that jars with how we see the world.’

Career progression is about much more than promotion; it’s how we continually move forward in our careers. … When we make progress in our careers, we increase our options, adaptability and opportunities.’

‘Taking ownership of your career gives you control over how you grow and where you go.’

‘We build confidence by unlearning and relearning, building and starting from scratch, experimenting and exploring.

‘Career progression is personal and unique to you. There is no blueprint to follow, and progression means many different things, from learning neew skills to redesigning how you work to developing as a manager.’

‘Your pace of progression is personal to you and will vary at different points in your career.’

‘When you think about your why as well as your what you will generate more ideas. All ideas are valuable, even if some get you closer to what you want than others.’

Coaching yourself to find your purpose at work doesn’t mean that every day will be easy, or even enjoyable, but it does mean that the hard work, inevitable stresses and compromises along the way will feel worth it.’

Purpose is not words on an office wall or a shiny screensaver. Purpose is your North Star. It guides your decisions and gives you confidence in where you’re going.’

‘Your purpose is a direction you head towards rather than a destination you reach.’

‘Your purpose is an ambition, not something you need to be able to answer or achieve. You don’t need to be limited by where you are today or what you’ve achieved in the past.’

‘To make progress towards your purpose we need to connect why you go to work with what you spend your days doing.’

Knowing the direction we want to head in without making progress towards it leaves us feeling at best frustrated and at worst demotivated.’

Source

Helen Tupper and Sarah Ellis (2022). You Coach You: How to Overcome Challenges and Take Control of Your Career