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If You Make A Mistake, Own It, Or It Will Own You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“Through our failures we learn more about what we don’t know.”

Own your mistakes. They are yours. When you make mistakes, don’t blame others for them. Blame yourself for them. When you blame yourself for your mistakes, you will have no other choice than to face your mistakes, to learn from them, to understand them, to own them, to fix them, and move on.

But if you do the opposite, if you abandon your mistakes and walk away, if you blame others for your own mess, for your own problems, for your ignorance, for your own carelessness, you neglect yourself, your spirit, your happiness, your joy, your health, and your inner life. If you are afraid of making mistakes, you are afraid of growing.

The only way to real growth is through the gate of mistakes. Are you scared of that gate?

When you blame other people for your mess, when you blame your partner, your kids, your government, your boss, your friends, you reduce yourself. You will learn more from your mistakes if you take responsibility for them. Don’t blame anyone but yourself. It is hard to do, but if you can take responsibility for your behavior, you open the door to your personal and professional growth. Mistake is a way forward, not backward. Make it!

Tell Yourself What You Need To Hear, Not What You Want To Hear

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Communication
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Honesty is the art of telling yourself what you don’t want to hear. To know yourself, you have to be honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you will be honest with others. When you are honest with other people, they will trust you. They will do anything for you. They will help you succeed. They will trust you and comet to you when they are in trouble.

You cannot be successful in life without first being an honest person. Nobody wants to work with a dishonest supervisor, manager, or boss. As a boss or a manager, if your people don’t trust you, you have lost it all. They will keep sensitive organizational information to themselves. When they are in trouble, instead of coming to you, they will talk to their friends, seek outside help.

If you want them (your people) to trust you, don’t lie to them. How? Make it a habit to always tell them the truth, no matter what. When things are going well in your organization, let them know. When things are not going well in your organization, let them know. Make sure you keep your promise. Don’t say one thing today, and do another tomorrow. If you say you want to do A, do A. Don’t say A, and do B. They will not trust you when you say something like that next time.

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If you want to achieve success with people, with yourself, you must be honest with yourself, and with the people you interact with on a daily basis. You cannot achieve success if you are a dishonest person. Start telling yourself the truth. Start telling yourself what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. There is growth in what you need to hear. There is a disaster in what you want to hear. What you need to hear reveals reality to you. What you want to hear, on the other hand, prevents you from facing your reality. Without facing your reality, there is no growth. If you want to grow, face reality. Ask yourself questions that will reveal your hidden secrets- your strengths and weaknesses.

If you want things to change in your life, start telling yourself the truth. The truth will set you free.